My boyfriend and I have had our struggles and after a year I finally felt like we were getting on the same page, until last night. I was trying tobhave a conversation with him about my career and what I should do with my life, trying to get some advice from my boyfriend. Well, after awhile he puts his phone down and says to me " I dunno, why don't you go be a judge and ruin someone else's day, not mine." then went to bed. This hurt my feelings. I just wanted some support from him and he acted like he was annoyed because I wanted to have a conversation with him. I don't even know what to think about his behavior. I talked to him in the morning about it, actually cried a bit because it did hurt me but he didn't find it to be a big deal. Should I stop being sensitive or are my feelings justified?
Most Helpful Guy
There are (at least) two possibilities. First, that he is a self-absorbed jerk who doesn't want to waste his time talking with you about your future. Second, that he was very hurt by the conversation you were having and wanted to end it, albeit rudely. Was your conversation with him emotionally neutral from his perspective, or were you touching on subjects that you two had disagreements about?0
Most Helpful Girl
"Should I stop being sensitive"
Look, you cannot help how you feel and there is no way to control that as far as I know. However, you can control your reactions. If your boyfriend doesn't seem eager enough to listen to you about your problems/future/issues, you can either stop talking to him about them, or you can find someone more caring and compassionate who's willing to listen to you.1