I ask this because I was in Ethics and we were having quite the discussion on relationships. I never really placed much importance on romantic relationships and have never found it odd but during the conversation I did start to feel a bit alienated and was unaware of how many people around me had seemed to find it interesting that I have never been in one. I guess the opportunity has never presented itself, because it didn't seem like a very big deal but since the discussion I've thought more about it.
Why is there so much importance placed on entering and maintaining relationships? Does it affect your perception of a person finding that they have never been in one? Does it raise any questions as to why they've never been in one?
Most Helpful Guy
Western society is always going to tell you to get into a relationship, have kids, spread your genes, etc. because that's biology. The biological model of society dictates that everything we do acts to further our goal of spreading our genes directly (through finding a mate), indirectly (through helping our close family to survive, because they share copies of our genes), or through reciprocal altruism (help others because they may help you back in the future, or it will give you fame that raises your social status). So if society perceives that you aren't spreading your genes, they will wonder why because such behaviour is considered abnormal. Our whole society has come to be structured around this fundamental principle of growing up, getting a job, meeting the "one" and getting a suburban home with a white picket fence to raise kids in.
There's nothing wrong with adhering or deviating from this "ideal." Lots of people like yourself find other existential pursuits in life that satisfy the need for self-actualization. However there will always be prejudice against ways of life that don't mirror that societal model. Stand strong and be proud of the way you choose to live, because nobody has the right to make you feel otherwise!2
Most Helpful Girl
There isn't. People do what they want to do, and if your not doing what their doing: you're considered weird. I have never been in a relationship in my life either, but that doesn't stop me from living. In my opinion, I see more people becoming stagnate with the wrong kind of people, doing all the wrong things, but expect other people to be accepting of it. I honestly don't care what people think of me. As long as I'm doing what's needs to be done, and it's beneficial to everyone else. Other than that, I am happy with my choices, and feel much more free when on my own.1