I never understood this. People, both male and female and of all ages and ethnic backgrounds, date all the time but then tell the other person they are not ready for a relationship knowing the entire time that they are not ready for one.
Like, I don't get it. I know some people use it as a way to let someone down that they aren't interested in, but there are way too many people who know starting out they don't have time for a relationship but continue to lead the other person on anyway. And sex isn't the issue, either. Whether or not they get it, they still do this. Is it for power? Glory? Cure for loneliness? What is it?
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I believe it is time for option number five in my belief. I don’t think they are doing it for power or glory or that they are bored per see. I believe it has to do with loneliness and not wanting to be by themselves, especially if we’re around the time of the holidays. Humans are social creatures by nature, just as we are sexual creatures by nature and if we can’t have the one, we will still seek out the other.
Realistically, even if someone is not ready for a relationship or they just want to let the other person down gently, the fact remains in my opinion, that even when someone isn’t ready, they still don’t want to be by themselves. Just look at the friends around you. If you could out to a social event and a person is alone while others have partners to share the day/evening with, they tend to have less of a good time.
You’ll have the rare occurrences where you’ll have someone who is confident enough in themselves not to bow to social pressures, but typically if someone doesn’t have a plus one to a party, then tend to not go, or you have those cases were widows take their daughters, brother ask their cousin…et cetera.
Individuals don’t want to others to believe there’s something wrong with them; like “why don’t you have a date,” or “are you here by yourself,” type of statements. It makes a person feel bad about themselves and it makes them feel self-conscious, therefore as I was saying, it isn’t I don’t believe about power, glory, or being bored, but about not wanting to appear weak or as if something is wrong with you, because if you’re alone, then obviously something’s wrong with you.