We talk everyday and have done for a couple months. I have sent him heart emojis and he's never sent back lol. He's really complimented me, saying I'm different, I'm smart, I'm hot etc. but this could be as a friend way. One thing I said in a convo was 'when I start waxing my future boyfriend will thank me when I'm smoother than anything' and he said 'I'll thank you then😋' but usually he uses 😋 sarcastically. He's never talked sexual with me, we've talked about cuddling a few times before and he said he has imagined cuddling me to get to sleep at night. We have a thing where we say how we are going to one day live on an tropical island called (our names put together). He was saying how 'we'll go on adventures and family and friends can come but they have to book in advance, because if they turned up that could get awkward because fuck knows what we'd be doing on the beach lol'. He knows I'm a virgin and waiting till marriage, and he said that although a lot of guys might not be up for that, if they know how amazing I am they'll wait and it's a good way to avoid players. Does he like me?
Your age gap is huge and you two are in total different life stages with different goals and aspirations (and probably interests). This sounds like a case of lust to me and even if you hope to save it till marriage, a lot of guys know that they can try to sway you by being sweet. Especially if he's older and actually has experience. I also just find it strange if he does like you. To me that that makes no logical sense considering what I said about life stages.
Well, he is right about one thing. Saying you are waiting till marriage is one of the best ways to weed out the players.
He might be nervous about your age difference. I made my younger girlfriend (now my wife) wait 7 months, until after I had met her parents before I was willing to date her. She was ready to go home with me after a few dates. Now she admits that the respect I showed made her feel valued.
Be very care full and don't let anyone dicourage you about age differences. Just remember your still not 18 yet and that alone plays a difference in all factors. Might be part of his hesitation towards the both you at the moment. Follow only what your and his heart agree on , not others judgements. Never mind them
Oh yeah, he likes you alright, and don't believe anything he says about sex. He's 30. The difference between you and him—I don't care how mature you consider youself—is insurmountable. I don't bat an eye at some age differences because I think it varies. 20 and 25, pfftt no big. 25 and 35, if it floats your boat whatever. But you're a child. I'm only 19, and I can hardly believe how much changed since high school. He's an older man who can't get anyone his age, so he's reaching down to you. It's happened to me many times at work this summer. Older guys do it all the time, and I don't know why it's so commonplace, but that doesn't change that your age difference is too great. If you still like him at 21, I guess you could try it, but right now he'd just use you. Please be careful.
Sounds like he does but it's not for your personality. You guys are in two different stages. He needs someone his own age. It's creepy and disturbing for a 30 year old guy to be with a soon to be 18 year old.