A few years ago I "hooked-up" with a friend, then later turned down another hookup with him because it wasn't going to become more than that... I'm a single mom, he said he doesn't take well to kids, he's a womanizer and I actually don't like hookups. Basically, we like each other but we have different objectives.
Fast forward to now. I just came out of a serious relationship. It ended 6 weeks ago so I'm far from over it, but I'm getting out and socializing again. This friend contacted me today and asked me out on a date.
So... he knows I don't do hookups, I know he doesn't want a relationship, and I'm not ready for either of those things right now anyway. How do I honestly tell him that I would like to go on dates with him but I don't want a hookup or a relationship? Lol
I know most of your answers will be "just tell him", but I'm hoping for suggestions on wording so I don't offend him or make him assume that by accepting his offer I'm now interested in hookups again. Or worse, make him think I'm "friend-zoning" him.
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I have no idea why you would go with him if you don't want a relationship or a hook up so I don't think now would be a good time any way for you to go out since clearly your not ready for it. But maybe just tell him that your not interested in a hook up and right now your not ready for a relationship so you wouldn't mind going out on a date with him but you can't really promise it will be anything more for the time being. Something along those lines that way its straight forward enough that he won't misunderstand your intentions and still lets him know that your interested in him.1
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