I am currently going through a very emotional divorce. There is no scandal, no violence, but it is still quite raw and psychologically challenging. Although I know there are times my husband has been emotionally abusive and that, no matter how painful it is, it is best for me to leave, I am still afraid of my life after divorce, because I think nobody will want to date a divorced girl... especially at 23 years old. I think men will hear this and think immediately that I am problematic, impulsive, or too complicated. Perhaps this is just my pre-judgement? Perhaps this is the image I have of myself? After getting a divorce I am planning to get therapy and try to solve my own issues in order to be healthy and start dating again, but the fear is there... what do you say? What if you were to date a girl you thought was young, free and without a care, but then found she was actually already divorced?
PS: I have no children, but just by curiosity, would the (in) existence of children affect your decision?
Thank you for your attention.
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Since you did not have any children with him I'd have to give you a big round of applause as that is being very responsible! Because imagine that if you did, then that would be worst for your kids and they'd all have to suffer for and pay the price for your divorce.
Don't be so hard on yourself, unexpected things can and will happen whether good or bad. It's not exactly like as if your life is completely over. Rather it's just one chapter closing and a whole new chapter that is just beginning.
If you had children already then it can and will be that much harder to start all over again in dating as I would think that the majority of single guys out there don't want to date single mothers or divorced mothers, unless they're already a single dad themselves or something.
It's time to embrace and enjoy be single and free all over again! Travel somewhere, see and experience new things, learn new skills, make new friends, or catch up with old friends. Enjoy your life, because you know what they say? You only live once, so therefore why not just make the most of it whenever you can and while you still can.
LIVE FOR THE MOMENT!0