Assuming there is a bill, what would you think if you split the bill on a first date? Keep in mind we live in 2016, not the 1400s and women have jobs. I don't see why this is an issue. Yeah women want to know if a guy is committed/interested but if you're proof of commitment is money, in my opinion you have a very shallow view of dating.
I wouldn't mind doing it. I would pay for my things. But in all honesty, I would think about whether or not you are true gentlemen. Point: not all girls support this feminist bs. Just pay for my cheap meal. It doesn't matter for you but to me and most girls it will mean much. Trust me. (even if I'm about to get d'voted by catfishes and guys).
First of all, what does it being 2016 have to do with anything? Why does it being 2016 automatically make it better?
Secondly, it's "your" in this context. "Your" indicates possession or ownership. "You're" is a contraction of "you are". Please ask YOUR English teacher to pay closer attention to YOUR work (seeing as YOU'RE under 18 and still in school).
Third, paying for a date doesn't mean "proof of commitment", love, or affection. Paying for a first date is simply the proper thing to do. If you've seen things you like about someone and you are inviting them to spend time with you, then you should be the one to pay. If you invite someone over to your house for the first time, would you expect them to clean it up and order or cook the food? This goes for both guys AND girls; whoever asks pays.
Now again, that's just the first date. If I ask a woman out, we go out, set up a second date and she wants to pay for that one or split the bill, that's fine. But for the first datex whoever asks should be the one to pay.
And so what if women have jobs these days? A few months ago after church, a whole bunch of us went out for brunch. My roommate was with us and he paid for EVERYONE and we all had jobs, some of them very well-paying. What do you think about that? Was he trying to win everyone's affection or friendship?
I don't mind doing that I'd probably prefer that as I'm a very independent person and I hate when other people pay for my stuff even if it's just buying me drink. Even in couples if one person pays for one date night and then the next date night the other person pays.
I would prefer to split the bill, even on the first date. I like to split the bill with my boyfriend now or switch off so one pays one time, the other pays the next and we've done that since the start.
I think it comes off as cheap and petty to expect the person to split a bill when YOU asked them on a date. If they offer to split, cool, but don't expect it.
Personally, I think whomever invites should be prepared and happy to pay.
After that, they should take turns. Myself, if I ask a guy on a first date I will pay. If he asks me, I'll offer to cover something but I would be very put off if he asked me to before I made the offer. I don't like splitting cheques, I think that's just tacky, but if we go bowling or something, I'll offer to take him out for a round of beers afterwards, something like that.
No. I'm a picky eater and I don't eat a lot while the people I go out with usually always eat a lot so having me pay half just isn't fair. I'll pay for my salad or falafel, you pay for whatever you're having. It's the Jupiter way 👍
There are some things in life I do not do 1] I do not split the bill as when I am on a date as I do not carry money or cards 2] I do not travel in these long tube like things that run underground with people crushed like sardines and 3] I do not go into McDonalds or Burger King bars as they full of unwashed people carrying disease. Next question!
You are under age so splitting the bill is not a big deal, I'm pretty sure you are too young to get a job at your age.
I'm in my 20s so when it comes to dating if a guy wants to split the bill on our first date I will assume that he just wants to be friends, of course I will pay my half but I will most likely not try to further it
I think whoever does the asking should pay. So if a girl asked a guy out for dinner she should pay and if a guy asks a girl out he should. I'm weird about people paying for me so my go to move is if the date is going well and we go to the movies or dinner or something I'll get I've cream after wards
No, I believe men have their role and women have theirs. Happily married couples who've been together forever, see how they're both equal in their relationship but they both still have their roles and bring different things to the table. They work together with him doing some stuff and her doing others. It's not just a man should pay and he has no other roles and she has no roles at all, it's just that that's one of the man things to me. It's not like a women belong in the kitchen and men should only work and provide for himself her and the family, but for me, i still like gender rolls to a certain extent.
If I was out on a date with someone and the girl stated she wanted to split the bill, then I wouldn't have an issue with it, because she's expressed her desire, and I've no standing to argue the point. I would, I feel, state my position as I would prefer to pay for the date, because in my mind that is how I was raised and personally feel what a gentleman should do, but if she insisted, then I see no reason to make a big issue over it.
It doesn't cost me anything to acquiesce to the request to split the bill and it would make her feel better about the date and hopefully show I respect her opinions and desires, which would improve our relationship in the end overall. It is a win--win situation in my view.
Why? Well, it's partially because I'd more than likely be the one doing the initial pursuing. But it's also because I just think it's the gentlemanly thing to do. That's just how I was raised -- it is what it is.
If dudes are super worried about paying for a first date, then why not just do something affordable? You don't gotta take a woman to some stuffy white-tableclothed restaurant in order to show her a good time. Use your imaginations.
I'd rather split the bill or each pays what they ate. I'd end up broke af if I have to pay for every date xD
With how the dating scene is nowadays, it's not worth it to pay for the date. You hear about "that's how you show you appreciate the girl" or "that's being a gentleman", but if paying is the only way to determine if he's a gentleman or not, she's only with you for the money. Also, if a man shows appreciation by paying, how does the girl show appreciation?
I wouldn't say no to paying if I asked her out, but if she wants to date me, why would I have to pay for her time?
To me it just sounds like a way to take advantage of something that worked back in the day, and now it's just being used as a way to get free stuff, it really has nothing to do with being a gentleman or not, it all has to do with not spending money on something that it's most likely not gonna lead to anything.
listen here man, dont go on a first date that costs money. the reality is that many women may take advantage of your gentlemanly behavior and mannerisms. therefore paying for someone elses food is not a good idea.
many women expect a man to be a gentleman, but they have not the slightest idea what a lady is. why would you ever be a gentleman to a woman that is not a lady? that makes no sense at all. and besides paying for someone else's food is unnecessary and although women say it means a lot, it means jack shit. i really dont see the purpose of paying for a womans food on the first date;
Look, I don't know her, she doesn't know me. I don't owe her shit, nor she to I. You're getting together to see if you connect and want to persue. Paying for her shit is like paying for her time and saying her time is more valuable than yours. Again, F* that.
I don't like paying twice, especially for a girl that I barely know, so splitting the bill is the way to go, some women are just wanting to have it both way, even though like you said already, most women have job in our time, unlike in the past.
Lol how they don't cry equality when something's convenient for them
funny that 40% of the women on her say it's a deal breaker/insult to split the bill. I wonder how many of those 40% identify as "feminists" in situations that would benefit them.
However I will have to say that if you want to get laid you almost HAVE to pick up the bill on the first date, however be careful. Some girls will string you along for free meal tickets. Watch the girls body language throughout the date. Is she looking at her phone ever 15 seconds? Is she not paying attention to what you are saying? Is she not making eye contact? If you get a bad vibe it's worth it to ask to split the bill. Also you are young and I imagine you don't have much money. Splitting the bill might be fair for high schoolers.
thats how i roll.. if she ate, she pays for what she ate.. how is it possible that women get away with making men pay for everything?
If my date wanted to split it then that would be fine. I wouldn't ask her to split it if she didn't bring up the subject though. It's really a double standard in society that men are still expected to be chivalrous despite women pushing for equality.
I will never be with a woman who refuses to pay for her own shit.
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