What do you think of the statement "Men need to feel Loved where as women need to feel Wanted."
What does it mean to you? Do you agree?
Most Helpful Girl
false, I think both men and women need to feel like they are appreciated, acccepted and being led to believe that they both will be loved and not be disappointed.
I think as a women... I wanted to feel like all my fears were taken away. I wanted to feel like I really could rely on him to lead me as well as me lead him in a way we both walked together to find love, truth, and what is right in life.
What I learned as I walked this path of my life is that my husband is not going to lead, he will just get angry if things go wrong, he will just be mad at me if I hurt him, he will not tell me that I hurt him and for me to stop. He will instead lash at me, and 100000x worse than what I did, and I didn't even know I did bad to him... for example a guy hurt me and I told him. He continued to tell me about his ex for a year, and he blames me because I told him about a guy who hurt me. He talked about how much he loved his ex, and that they never argued and they dated for 3 years and they had sex 100000000000000x a day. Ofcourse this just made me more sad. what I was looking for in him was for him to take my fears away. For him to tell me that he would never treat me like that. that I don't have to worry about it. He took my virginity and I continued to stay with him but I have been suffering so much in this relationship. Learning so much that I understand him more and more and trying to help him to learn to become a better person. It has been really hard. He has no empathy skills, he is reactive instead of proactive and problem solving, he has no listening skills, he has no money management skills, he has no leadership skills, he has no friendship building skills, he has no skills to try to understand... all he has is anger, reacting in a very angry annoyed way and he knows how to provoke someone when they are down and sad and hurt. He tells me to shut the eff up and for me to be happy right that second or else he will continue to call me names and put me down. that's what he is good at only. He can't empathize with me and say that he understands that I am sad and that that would make him sad too or angry too if that happend to him. He can't relate at all. He has only fears and anger, that's why he took my virginity so quickly and asked me to marry him so quickly. He was afraid he would never be married, and be alone all his life. Anyways yah I just wanted to word bomb your question! hahahahahahahah!! have a great day!!!0
Most Helpful Guy
I dont agree with first part
Men do enjoy feeling loved, but mostly care about having a supportive girl
Women on the other hand just want to feel wanted and validated1