Don't be so hard on yourself man. At least give yourself credit for trying and learning despite no actual success. Failure and rejection is difficult to take, have you ever seeked help and advice and try different methods after so many dates? If you're doing exactly the same thing each and every single time every single date, then there should be no surprise why it isn't working because those methods you had previously used at the very beginning had never even worked in the first place.
It will take time, but if you become single chronically and long enough you may completely stop caring all about it and give it all up altogether. Besides, relationships are not guaranteed to last forever and neither will they ever guarantee any sort of real happiness. That part is entirely all on you and is completely your responsibility.
Have you ever considered the possibility that you may never end up in any relationships at all over the course of your lifetime? And if you did, then what would you then do? What exactly then are you willing to do?
"B" for Better person, @LiterallyZeus. It has Allowed me Many different Experiences in my own life, to Have Had and still have the Privilege to Date and Mate, and be Able to Tell about it, maybe even Help someone, such on Gag even, which is How I have Gotten to this Level. Good luck and Great question and Welcome to Gag town. xx
even as a girl it's ruined my self esteem. it seems like s lot of men chase after me and find me attractive. but the only guys that are interested in a real relationship with me are the ones that I'm not interested in. when I date as guy I actually like it seems like after a few weeks he's no longer interested. and everyone I've been in a relationship with has cheated on me. it stings either way. if you don't get a call for that 2nd date from someone and you thought it went well, or even when you think it's going so good that it could get serious only to discover he's not on the same page
It actually has improved it. I mean I have meet a lot of great guys, sadly enough it hasn't worked out with most but we have remained friends and for the most part if I want advice I generally ask them. I told this one guy I communicate with that he needs to go out to flirt with more girls. He is such a smooth talker he could give anyone a good ego boost.
Yes to an extent, but not anymore. It taught me how to be confident in myself and my decision. I learned that I won't tolerate certain behaviors, attitude and treatment from anyone. Be it spouse, parents, family or friends. Lastly, it taught me self love and self respect. It is really essential that we take care of our emotional health, a sound mind is a sound body.
I am more selective so i have much fewer dates, by choice which in turn dampens the blow frequency
I had been with my ex boyfriend for 3 years... I was never confident with myself before him - always thought that so many things were wrong with me.. but he made me love myself - he appreciated my body so much.. he literally worshipped the ground i walked on. After our break up, yes i worked a little on myself - i always made sure my hair was nice, i had good outfits on and without him i wouldn't have ever felt as good as I do now about myself.
I've never dated. I had 'boyfriends' very briefly (for like a few weeks) when I was 10 and when I was 14. When I was 19 I met my current boyfriend online and we became very close friends very quickly and kind of almost got together but didn't a couple of times, and finally did get together 3 months ago, and I am nothing but happy with our relationship :) (I'm almost 21 now)
I don't think I could 'date', I could only ever see myself being friends with a guy first, that worked super well for me, and now I just want to stay with my boyfriend. Forever and ever :)
I've gotten my heart broken a couple of times. I ain't even gonna lie and pretend otherwise.
But oddly enough, my self-esteem seems to get better as time goes on. I've been fortunate enough to have a few pretty special women interested in me -- and with me -- in my life, so maybe that plays a part? For instance, the last woman I was into is completely amazing, and even though it didn't work out, I can't help but feel good about sharing what we had.
Like, don't get me wrong, I derive self-esteem from who I am independent of what others think of me. I genuinely like me a lot. But it doesn't hurt when a few amazing women affirm that you're desirable.
If anything dating has affirmed that I really am better than most people. I haven't settled on fat girls, I haven't accepted dishonesty, and I certainly didn't stay with girls that cheated... I definitely am not a beta, everything else is up for question, but at least we have that solved.
I dated a lot, weekly for about a year until I settled with one. I can not say that dating lowered anything. Conversely, I believe that I became a better person as a result of many new dates. I learned how to better center my focus on the date and her motivations as opposed to selling myself.