im so upset that I can't get into the details.
Basically, I found out through a mutual friend that he has a girlfriend and that they have been together almost as long as him and me.
What upsets me the most is the fact that him and her have been going through some difficulties and to fix things agreed to go therapy.
At this point I can't even wrap my mind around the fact that he is in couples therapy while seeing another woman, me.
I can't confront him so I won't say anything until I figure out how to make him admit that he's been lying to me for almost a year.
At the same time I wonder what type of a man would do such a thing.
Is it even remotely possible at this point that he was actually in love with me as he claims over and over again?
Can a normal person have true feelings for two people?
My friend tells that he the girl he's dating tells her they're in love but their relationship is a lot of work. Has he been using me as a distraction then?
He's been telling me that I'm the best thing that ever happened to him while he tries to fix the other relationship.
What kind of person does that?
Does anyone think his actions can be justified?
Most Helpful Guy
Can a normal person have true feelings for two people? The answer is yes, but there are many qualifiers to support that yes answer and while I seriously doubt they apply in your situation, this is a possibility
You are or have been two-timed behind your back leaving you exposed to a host of dangers that I can not begin to reveal here. I do not care how well intentioned a person can be face to face, the fact remains there is no respect for you as a partner. Shielding you from a second lover is not respectful of you.
Personally, I would just end the relationship with the firm and committed words, we are done as a partnership right now and forever. No explanation or discussion required. He does not deserve anything other than the door. What you two created together or had at one time has been destroyed by his selfish actions deserving no further time or effort on your part. Just my opinion1
Most Helpful Girl
you are not the first or the last in such situations.
this is not about her or him... now its about you.
you believe and trusted this is happeining to you.
whats your head telling you to do?
get low and get dramatic?
or move on and learn from this experience with no regrets?
i had that. once i found out.. yes was a yr. guess what? i disconnected all contact. he never knew where i live. he tried following me home one time. i turned back, saw him and teased that he has to go back to his "wife" and don't follow me and that he will never know who i am, where i live... i became the mystery woman and more power to me... to me he was nothing and meant nothing to me except he helped me with some stuff lol...
i have since had a great boyfriend.
lesson... move on, you will meet someone who will treat you right.
why waste your energy with all the above questions you asked... who cares...
you need to ask what kind of person he is? lol... that means you are hung up on his stupidity rather than caring about your self...