I have know my best friends wife for some time and I know that they are having some problems. I wish the best for her and we do connect very well. I know her family very well and get along with them perfectly. They even have family arguments when I am around of course no family is perfect and I am openenly neutral. To say that I am very different than her husband that I can relate to her on a human level and can really understand her plights. I have a feeling that she is looking for somthing that she can't get in her marriage. She is having problems and does not have anyone else to talk too but me. She spoke to me yesterday as we both have cottages on the lake and inquired if I was going to be there. Of course I said yes "reno work". She stated that she would be going up alone and wanted me to come over at 8 pm to have some beers. I know that she is very stressed out but at the time it's hard for us to talk and get it out due to wondering ears. So at 8 pm I will show up at their family cottage and see what transpires. Should I take the jump because honestly I do care for her and wish her the best. Would it be wrong for me to give her what she seeks that she can't get in her current predicament? I mean she is very good looking. 32 5,10 about 140 lbs. Slim. Blue eyes, blond hair. Saw her yesterday in her yoga pants and I just wanted to die! When she has a light summer dress on and lays on a couch with her legs parted it is quite the sight to see her perfect form.
Most Helpful Girl
I am of the belief that you should think two steps ahead of whatever you're doing and ask yourself if it's still a good idea. In this case, think about the friendship with both parties. Considering it will be found-out, and it always is, will you be okay with having to explain yourself to your guy-friend and are you willing to lose the friendship? With her, the cheating usually only happens once, but sometimes these affairs only last a short time, and I'm not sure if it would be worth it to try and be a hero and be something you think she needs just because you can. You're dealing with a troubled couple, and I'm not sure why you want to immerse yourself in the drama. And why not just find your own woman anyway? Just because one woman is sending signals that she needs you doesn't mean you have to take it upon yourself to do exactly what she wants. But if it's what you want - which is sex with a woman you're attracted to, believe me there are other women out there who would be attractive to you also without the potential for ruining marriages, friendships, and reputations. Who cares if she looks good in yoga pants? Thousands of other women do.
And sorry, I really doubt you are the *only* person she can talk to. She only choosing to talk to you because you're making yourself available and she's finding a route within you to be hinting at more - something she obviously doesn't trust in telling her family or female friends, for fear of being caught.
If someone isn't proud of what they're doing, and has an issue being honest with the one person they're supposed to be - their spouse, then you're dealing with a bit of a snake anyway. You have no idea which female friends she's going to brag to that she slept with you and that always ends up being trouble.
Please, for the sake of everyone - mainly you, don't get involved. She's out to hurt her husband and in the end you because she's not valuing you either in this scenario since she's putting you in a position to lose a lot also.1
Most Helpful Guy
Until she has decided to officially end her marriage and leave her husband. Let her decide. Affairs are never good, and in this case it would be worse since she is your "best" friend's wife. If she already have an established family with kids with him, then just let them sort out their problems first. And if she absolutely is certain and unhappy about her sutuation no matter what they do such as going through counseling and therapy, then you can bring up that she could always just end their marriage and you'll still be waiting for her if that's what she really wants. Just give it time. It won't be an affair if she had officially ended her marriage by then, but only do so if that is really what she wants after the fact that she had already made her decision and choice.1