I’ve been dating Guy1 for about 3 months. We began sleeping together a month ago. We’re dating, but not exclusive. We really like each other however, lately, I feel like I’ve been the one putting in all the effort and I don’t feel like I’m much of a priority. I’ve initiated the last 3 dates. I guess my belief is that because he's "got me" he knows he can see me anytime he wants.
Enter Guy2. We meet at a BBQ 2 weeks ago through a mutual friend and we instantly click. We end up texting, and he asks me out for a drink next week to which I agree on impulse. Thing is, I don’t feel guilty. I refuse to be an option, and when someone takes me for granted, that pushes me away. I don’t want to put all my eggs in one basket with Guy1; I’m not going to initiate any more dates with him.
I know I may sound manipulative but I’m too proud to say anything to Guy1. I’ll come across as needy, and it’s not like we’re official.
Most Helpful Guy
Your question is misleading at best. Let me clarify, it is NEVER right to string along someone with whom you are having sexual relations, EVER.
If you want to date multiple people that is fine, but once the date turns intimate, it is no longer a date. You have shared the most private part of yourself with another, therefore ending the courting session transforming into an intimate relationship. So in by doing so, it is wrong to involve other potential courters.
Just my opinion4
Most Helpful Girl
You are Merely "Playing the female field" here, dear, as a free Bird, so Good... I don't want to put all my eggs in one basket.
keep Going and Flowing until you are sure one day, One of them May or May not be the Right One for you.
You are Not official nor Exclusive with Neither one of them, hun, so Keep this Under your Wing when it comes to Any... Fling. No one has to Know about the other Joe.
Keep those 'Options' open, and you may Dump them Both one Day, when Mr. Right comes your Way and Treats you like a Queen Bee.
Good luck. xx1
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