I am dating this man. 30 year old military guy and it's been almost 8 months. He's a Seargant in the airforce and makes pennies compared to what I make in a year, but if you've been in the military or know someone who has you realize that they literally get everything handed to him. He has 0 dependents and 0 responsibilities. The airforce pays for his mortgage, insurance, utilities, food, and he pays little to nothing in taxes. He also has 2 roommates in his home so his $1,500 mortgage stipend goes in his pocket every month.
We decided to go on a spontaneous trip to Chicago. I suggested it and invited him but we've attempted to go on many vacations together.
We take a first class flight there $700 paid by me. Our driver picks us up $138 paid by me. We get to the hotel, the trump. Each night and the security deposit. $1,600 paid my me. Our late night meal at the hotel. $100.38 exactly paid by me.
The next morning we go out for brunch, we get the check $74 I take a look at hand it to him. He says "aw" pouts and after taking out his card, gets quiet for the duration of the time spent at the restaurant. We take a cab back to the hotel. $10 paid by me. Later we go to a store to get a phone charger because we both forgot ours. I find a hat I like. Total is $22 he stands far away from the register as if I should pay. I tell him I didn't bring anything. He pouts, says "aw" and pays. He then is quiet for the duration of our walk back to the hotel.
Fast forward to dinner. Pizza place, $24. After a long while of me not picking up the check he takes a look says do you want to pay for this or should I? I say you can. He sighs takes out his card and is again quiet.
This morning. Breakfast. $100 paid by me. Then our flights back... a whole other story.
Is he taking advantage me or am I being a bitch? It's a turn off and I just don't enjoy his company as much. Not sure if there's a future. When answering don't be an ass or judge me, thanks.
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If he's got money to spare I think it's at least fair to split the cost of things!
Me and my ex went halves on most things, sometimes I'd go to pay for a jumper or something and he'd take it out of my hand and pay for it, I never asked him too. He must said he wanted too. I always offered to pay for meals and everything we did. We'd either alternate it so one of us paid each each time or go halves.
I do think it's unfair for you to be expected to pay for everything and then for him to get funny when you ask him too!
Either he's a tight ass or he can't afford it.0