well im 18 and so is my boyfriend. it seems normal to me, i've always dated guys my age or maybe a year older and nobody cared but now all of a sudden everyone (everyone older then me) is saying it won't work out because a guy should be at least 3 years older so that he matures faster and we'll always be on the same page. and also so that he can already accomplish a lot (like have a career and his own house) by the time we get married. and i've also heard that if we're the same age, when we get older, like 30-40, he'll think im too old and start checking out younger girls. what do you all think, is this all true or just a bunch of assumptions?
Lol it's complete bullshit. I've always dated girls my age and never had issues like that. Being the same age actually helps because you don't have to worry about being in different points in your life where one person wants to settle down and one person wants to enjoy their life as much as they can. And do you really think its gonna make a difference to a 40 year old man whether you are 40 or 37 at that point? If he really is the type to check out younger girls then he's gonna do it either way, and you shouldn't marry guys like that anyway.
If you like him just ignore your friends. It does take time to get a career and your own house but is that why you like a man? Do you only like a man because he will have a good job and a house?
Oh yeah the last thing you said about when he get's older he will start looking at younger girls. Wouldn't a guy 5 to 10 years older than you do that too? If you are 35 and your husband is 40 and he's the type of guy who will leave you for a younger girl he will do it. People are making assumptions but I think it would be better just to find a guy who won't go looking for younger girls when you get older.
LOL those people saying "he can already accomplish a lot (like have a career and his own house) by the time we get married". Basically gotta find a guy who got everything done so she can jump onto his back and piggy back your way to the riches.
Makes me feel like those girls are only in it for the good times and once things get tough they'll abandon ship like rats. This makes me lose faith in humanity.
Yeah if couples take things slow. Give each other space. You can't go by what other people tell you. My aunt and uncle were together since teenagers to he passed away at age 67 due terminal cancer. So don't never go by what others do.
My husband is ten days younger than me and I love it this way. I find that we have more in common and it draws me closer to him. I feel like we are in the same mentality, we think a like and treat each other like equals. I wouldn't want it any other way. I have always been attracted only to guys my exact age. I don't want a guy who is younger or older than me. This is my preference. I do what makes me happy.
Like they say, age ain't nothin' but a number. The key to a successful long-term relationship is being at the same stage of your life at the same time. My boyfriend is 4 years younger than me and it's never been a problem because we've always been on the same page/wanted the same things.
I don't think there's any hard and fast rules for dating. It's a cliché but they say age is just a number and I think that's true. Its more about maturity levels, girls usually date older guys because girls mature faster so its usually a better match. But everyone's different. I've dated older guys and they've been so immature it just hasn't worked, I'm currently dating a guy 4 years younger than me and he's by far the most mature guy I've ever been with. Don't worry too much about the future, if you two are happy now then just keep doing what you're doing :)
It's not about age, it's about compatibility. Some people of the same age might not be compatible in the end, where some are. It's not about age, as it's a number. It is all about whether the two of you are on the same page.