A man should groom and dress up for himself. To present himself as a man when he is walking out into this world. Who he attracts no matter how he looks is who he attracts. Now if he has a specific girl in mind, his only focus is to look good and impress her. NOT other women. His only focus is based on his reasons and intentions. The same way Biblically about Ruth and Boaz. Ruth and Naomi had planned out EVERYTHING since them returning to Jerusalem and gathered wheat from his fields. Her eyes was only on him and likewise his on her. ALWAYS. He was very much interested in her, and gave her free food as long as he gets to see her. And she too [with Naomi's encouragement and ideas], did whatever she had to do to get his only attention until it was very clear both of them wanted to get married to each other.
Again, this is about the man being intentional with his pursuits. That means finding out about her interest and how she like's a man to be with her. Wither if its to date her, have sex with her or to marry her. I for one is not concerned about his physical appearance at all, as that is on the very bottom of the list. Sure his looks may be the first thing I see that grabs my attention. But my main concern is how he treats me, how he treats other people, his family, friends, coworkers, his boss, teachers if he's still in school, kids, pets if he has any, animals overall, etc. Then next comes his personality. Is he an introvert like me or an extrovert? How does he function mentally, emotionally and psychologically? How does he react to everything in his life, the good and the bad? Afterwards comes his morals, what's his belief's? Does he have a religion? Is he a believer in God/Christ or a non believer of any religion? What is his views about family and is he family oriented like I am? That is extremely important as this next one. Does he believe in premarital sex of any kind? What's his views on marriage and what does he believes marriage is? Does he want to be married, and if so by what age? If we date, for how long does he want to date? No more then 2-3 years or its not going anywhere. Plus there needs to be a reason for all this time.
Everything else comes in before I even decide to make anything official. Like I said the physical appearance comes last. I do not hold a preference for that as long as they are healthy and is mentally, emotionally and psychologically stable. I need to know this before becoming official, terms and boundaries included.