I am a truck driver. I have worked in the oilfield for most of my life. I hardly ever get asked out. I get hit on by married men plenty (no thank you) and a few lesbians (no thank you). Yes I'm kind of tomboyish. I don't wear makeup or carry a purse or wear dresses. I'm very uncomfortable wearing makeup and dresses. I am not a lesbian. I wear steel toe boots and jeans. I am a real natural woman. I have dressed up and gone out before and not one single man ever paid any attention to me. Oddly enough I have gone into bars right after work all greasy and dirty and every guy in the bar bought me drinks but none asked me out. What do I do to remain true to myself and attract a good man?
Most Helpful Guy
If you're all greasy and dirty after work and go to the bar then you might be perceived as "one of the guys". That's why they are buying drinks but not asking you out. Join some coed teams in the area to meet guys, and don't be affraid to ask some out yourself.7
Most Helpful Girl
Oh honey do I understand lol. I'm in the military so obviously a male dominant field. I spend all day around men, acting like one, joking like on, etc. I keep my makeup as natural as possible (females get shit for not looking "professional" if we go natural) and wear old tshirts, worn jeans and boots on my off time. Spend more time in the gym than the mall, but not "bulky" looking either.
All the guys in the bar are just looking to hit and quit thats why they buy drinks but show no further interest past that. Keep to who you are, if you dont feel comfortable in makeup or a dress then dont do it. I ended up engaged to my best friend and he fully accepts and loves that I'm not girly. Keep true to yourself, just keep faith that someone will come along who totally digs a lady like yourself.
But I also have to say, make yourself presentable. Clean up, maybe wear something nicer (I usually go for a nice but not flashy top) and jeans with some appropriate shoes. And in my experience, bars aren't anywhere to look for a man worth having honey. Best of luck to you though :)2