I am trying to figure out what is wrong with me.
I am 23, I have never have had a girlfriend, kissed a girl or even held a hand...
I think I am decent looking, I do get checked out by girls... I work full time, so I have money...
I am on dating sites, I try to small talk girls in public but it never goes anywhere...
What do I need to date?
I don't know what is wrong with me... I see my ugly friends have girlfriends, friends with benefits, hook up with girls...
But I have nothing?
So what does a guy need, or have to do to get a girlfriend?
I try being myself, I try being extra confident but nothing ever works...
I feel like I missed out on so much life and will die alone :(
Most Helpful Girl
There's probably nothing "wrong" with you... dating is difficult in this day and age. People rarely talk to each other face to face anymore because of technology. I think the best way to find someone is to join a club/group or take classes etc. Really anything that you would go to consistently. This gives you a lot more chances to get to know someone and if they're in the same club/group/class as you, there is already something you have in common and something you can talk about that isn't just small talk. A lot of people don't like small talk, it isn't interesting or engaging in the slightest. I never remember the guys that approached me for small talk.. I remember the guys that had something interesting to say. Just try to make yourself stand out, but not in a way that would turn her off. Be memorable.. give the girl a reason to want to talk to you again. Be mysterious.. don't let out information so easily so she becomes curious about you. Act interested in her and most likely she will eventually gain interest as well. Go to meetup. com to find clubs/groups in your area. A lot of the time, if you just approach someone random, it can be awkward or uncomfortable.. especially if you don't have something to talk about besides small talk. In a class/group setting you see them more often and consistently, and they will be more comfortable around you. Also, you have more time to think of what to say and there's also much bigger chance that you will end up talking naturally.0
Most Helpful Guy
First of all, I don't know but you do look a little desperate for a relationship. Honestly speaking desperation is not a good quality, it's not at all attractive.
Secondly I can understand your dissapointment and you say you try to be yourself and extra confident which is the right direction to go on. It's possible that it may not always be you who is wrong, it's possible that you simply have bad luck.
In that case nothing much can be done. There are some things you can't control and you need to accept that.
The right way to go about this is:
1. You should be confident.
2, You should be yourself and don't compare yourself with others.
3. You can possible work on your physical appearance and try to look physically appealing and attractive. Take care of your skin and hair. Have a nice hairstyle also.
4. As far as your personality is concerned, you should try to work on your flaws and in order to do that, you should first understand yourself very well. Work on your insecurities and so on. Hence try to make yourself as perfect as you can. Of course 100% perfection is not possible but getting anywhere close to that itself would be a remarkable achievement for you.
If you are already doing all this and still if a woman doesn't like you then I am sorry there is nothing much you can do. In that case you can assume that the fault is not in you, it's just bad luck for you.0