This will be fun. I've seen way too many butthurt guys on this site and worse yet, sometimes feel like becoming one. I want to hear all of them, but I also want to hear the opposing argument; I have not yet seen a single girl comment about how butthurt she is because she can't get a boyfriend. Do they exist? What do all the normal people think too? Also please explain your other reasons if you chose one of those options.
Men, because women tend to be more picky or less willing to settle for someone
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Men, because they're not doing it right
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Women, because they don't traditionally approach men
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Women, because all the guys are looking for sex and not a meaningful relationship
Hmmm. I'd say it was equal, as I woman I approach my crushes. Especially if they have been reciprocating with the flirting, I spend time and effort getting to know more about them. Just to discover that they have been leading me on because they already have girlfriends. But men seem to listen to their friends saying "just go for it" before they've even had any signals that a woman is interested or before they've even tried talking to her. I mean wouldn't you find it kinda daunting if a complete stranger just asked you out straight away? Or the really shy guys just think that being a stalker, invading your space and successions of staring at you will get them somewhere. They expect you to still be interested in them 2 or 3 years later when they finally decide that they want to talk to you. By that time their crush got fed up of their pissing about, lost interest and moved on.
Do people even approach each other anymore? I have never been approached by a stranger.. guys in public just stare or catcall. Even when I was in high school, guys would mostly ask me out over text. The few times I've been asked out in person have been by really close guy friends that never ever even hinted that they were attracted to me or were interested in dating me... This year 3 different guys confessed to me that they like me over text from a school I went to my junior year.. so about 2-3 years ago... I haven't even seen any of them since then. I don't get guys at all. I've asked out two guys in my life and got rejected by both but super nonchalantly... one of the guys acted like he liked me and would flirt with me nonstop.. when I told him I liked him he says "I like my girlfriend" like okkkaayy why even flirt with me all this time. And the other guys way of turning me down was by talking to his friends someplace I could hear and said he only likes Latino women and basically bashed my body type since I am slender... it was obvious that it was directed towards me. I know not all guys are like this but damn grow some balls.
Women have an easier time approaching, because I think we're more afraid of a guy being a creep/potentially dangerous. Guys don't seem to worry about that in the same way, so they don't really have their guard up.
Its way easier for a woman to approach a man, if only because its not the current social norm. Even if the guy isn't interested, he is likely to at least find it flattering that a woman would dare to approach them. Women, in the other hand, tend to expect men to approach them, and basically read their minds to determine if she is interested or not
It's not that easy for us either though. Personally, I've been rejected every time. But I could, if I really wanted to, just wait and have men come to me. It's the safe option, but not my preferred option. Like technically, I have a safety net even if every single man I approach rejects me. I can still count how many men rejected me, and I'm not bragging or proud of this, but I cannot remember how many men I've had to reject (even some lesbians). Men aren't afforded with such luxury, so it's men that have it worse approaching.
I see a shit ton of "does size really matter, how can I get a chick" and from the females I see a ton of "what do I do, what am I doing wrong" but the biggest thing I see from both sexs is..."he/she stairs at me touched my _______.. I dont understand does he/she like me?" My god its OBVIOUS IM NOT SURE HOW MUCH MORE OBVIOUS IT CAN BE LOL
It's impossible to say which one has it harder, because both do for different reasons. Men: they're always expected to approach Women: it's not as socially acceptable for them to approach and is often considered to be less effective
Women, because they're often too passive and don't show very much of their true identity in public (aka are generally performing as "pleasers". Then they wonder why they can't find what they're looking for.
For some reason "nice" and "passive" have gotten confused, and it hurts both sexes.
this is kind of a pointless stupid question and i will explain why...
everyone is different... both genders find it difficult to approach the opposite sex and some people find it easy.. it all depends on the person it's not about genders... sick of people making things about genders. we are all people at the end of the day, don't like it? get surgery to look like a dog
To answer your question men because in general they do it more.
Do women get frustrated with being single? Hell yes. They just handle it differently. Where men blame ass holes and claim women don't want "nice guys" women tend to claim only ass holes exist and all the "nice guys" (code for a man who will openly respect them, love them, and treat them well) are taken or not interested. They often turn it in on themselves. The men I know who are frustrated tend to blame women for wanting a different type of guy.
Women, because the majority or many don't approach at all due to the fear of rejection, fear of feeling awkward, fear of looking desperate orrrr knowing they don't have to because guys will probably approach them. Or at least wait and hope a cool guy will approach. Some girls are go-getters in this arena, but it's rare.
i have seen girls even her asking why guys dont approach them even if they are good looking girls may like a guy but wait for him to make the first move like he has some mind reader nothing comes from waiting want something go for it
I think it's men but only because women don't have as many societal pressures to approach a guy, most (key word most) will wait for the guy which in doing so removes any real pressure to act on their interest. Guys not only have the same interest in connecting with someone but also the pressure that if they don't nothing will happen.
Men have it harder. Men are socially expected to approach women, and it can be really difficult because of man reasons. For one, she can be already in a relationship. Two, she can reject you in public and no one will think less of it.
I'd say men. It's a lot easier in the sense that men are more laid back and don't have to worry about getting raped by the girl etc. Girls are rarely seen as creepy or perverted (compared to guys) and this is something men can get labelled as very often. Also, women can score dates by just being themselves and being friendly. Guys on the other hand have to be on their A game and are more likely to be rejected if he isn't successful with his words or making the girl feel intrigued. Add to the fact that most women are much more picky then most men.
"Women, because they don't traditionally approach men" Tradition doesn't mean they have magically been give an abiltiy to approach. If any women say that it's a poor excuse.
"Women, because all the guys are looking for sex and not a meaningful relationship" Even assuming that's 100% true and in the way they think it true, what does that have to do with approaching? How is that a reason?
men because men are still generally expected to approach and plus men can unfortuneately easily be at risk of being labeled creepy
Lol. Women are so clueless. Women dump men more than men dump women. Women rarely if ever approach and most of the time it's when the guy is so far out of their league that she doesn't register to him unless she approach him.
In short women like with everything in life are lazy.