There's a man who works at the gym I go to and we've become really good friends over the past few months. We've gone out for drinks a few times but he has never made a move on me. I know he doesn't take anyone else from the gym out for drinks. Most days if he has no clients then he spends all the time I'm there with me, either working out or having coffee, but some days he barely says hello to me.
The other staff at the gym know we go out for drinks (we got seen out one night by someone who works there who told everyone) and I know they are talking about us.
I work in a coffee shop and he said he will come in to see me one day this week although I don't know if he actually will. He sends me jokes via text message but he doesn't text me unless I've sent him one first.
He once mentioned a wife when we first met but has never said anything about her since so I don't know if he is still married and is talking about moving to the town I live implying that he would be moving on his own, and he often talks about his life as if he is on his own - for example when he goes to do "my" grocery shopping and not "our" shopping.
Would a man genuinely develop a close friendship with a female or is he likely to want something more? How can I make it clear that if he is interested then I would like a relationship with him without making a fool of myself?
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If there is a wife involved, maybe they are experiencing problems and he is keeping this going with you to either 1) stroke his ego or have companionship with a female without cheating or 2) have a backup plan ready if he and his wife don't work out. Maybe he is on the fence about what to do but is obviously not crossing the line with you. What you don't mention is if you two flirt. It sounds like there is no flirting going on.
Either way, you need to figure out what is going on. Since he hasn't made a move on you, it wouldn't seem odd for you to mention that you recall he said something about a wife previously and maybe ask if they have kids or something that would make sense as to why you wondered about his wife. If he is single/divorced, well then you can continue to see him and if he just wants friendship he will continue to act as he is. If he wants more, I am sure he will get around to making that clear.0