I met this guy - we are very into each other and he says he really likes me. We text constantly and see each other often. I found out after 4 dates that he and his girlfriend of 4 years broke up only a month ago. Now I'm scared. Am I just a rebound? I've continued to see him since but now I'm starting to have real feelings for him and am worried.
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Most Helpful Guy
I think you would be taking your chances with him at your own risk here. But just watch the signs does he ever bring his ex up every so now and then or ever act suspicious? If you really don't want to take any chances with him, just gather all your strength and willpower to drop him and drop him forever from your life and start over again. Since it's still in the early phase of this relationship. He's been with ex for much longer than he has with you so he's going to have a deeper emotional attachment to her. But he could have completely moved on, and you just have to watch the signs and at some point confront him directly and be blunt about it if you find him acting strange and unusual and behind your back. Otherwise just drop all contact, or just "ghost" it all together. Or you can just leave him a clear and honest message that you really aren't so sure about this and you just feel that this is unlikely to end well because you do not fully trust him enough to not be just a rebound for him and that it is best for the both of you to go your separate ways. If he actually dropped all contact with his ex, etc., then that could be a good sign that he's legit about moving on from her, that and tossing out all the old materials such as gifts, presents, etc., he had received from her, and maybe even deleted any and all photos, pictures and disconnected from his ex from social media, etc.
But if he had not and no evidence suggest he had done any of the above I had mentioned, yep, he could be taking you for granted and taking advantage of you only as a rebound. Just drop him early before you'll regret it later.0
Most Helpful Girl
One month after break up, I found a man attractive and cute so I was into him and I wanted to get to know him but he's taken. So I gave up on him. I guess the guy was tired of his ex because they were together for 4 year. They may fight a lot but they could be lazy to break up. I think you need to get to know him more.0