My boyfriend and I have been together for 1.5 years. In the beginning I used to be your stereotypical clingy "I need to see him or I'll go insane"... but recently I'm quite the opposite. As in I'm slowly learning to be okay with not seeing him for a few days... and this will sound weird, but I'm not sure I'm okay with this feeling. The feeling of not needing to be with him, but wanting to be with him.
In the past he has suggested a few days to himself, which I used to make a big deal about -- but I almost get it now.
This is entirely out of character to me.
We see each other about 5 days a week -- which is quite a lot considering we don't live together. Usually it's in the evenings and we'll sleep over at one another's place. Sometimes we go out and do something sometimes it's an evening in. Regardless I of course enjoy and want his company. Is this a common thing in a long term relationship? I see myself being with him for the long haul and he does too. So eventually we would be living together. So does this almost prepare us for that next step?
Most Helpful Guy
Yeah, it's normal, you don't wanna leave him but it doesn't mean you'll want to be with him all the time. The beginning is always more exciting and we get carried away, stuff like that. With the time we change, it doesn't mean that there's something wrong though.1
Most Helpful Girl
I think it's normal, the same thing has happened to me a few times. I don't know if it's the same for you in the beginning, but I recognize that the reason why I used to have those feelings was more because I was insecure about our relationship and being with him in person reassured me that he still loved me and felt the same and blah blah blah, but as time went on, I saw that clearly he wasn't going anywhere and our relationship was stable, so I was more secure in going and doing my own things and spending some more time apart because I didn't feel like I had to hold onto him to make sure he wouldn't leave. As long as you still enjoy his company and actively want to still spend time with him, being okay with spending time apart isn't a bad thing. I think it's a sign of security and maturity in a reltionship.1