Guys, I have a question. (Clearly, that's why I'm on here.) First, I should explain. I went through hard times the past two years, and I was very stupid. I cut myself. There are a few very small scars on the sides of my wrists, where I thought no one would see them. (I was wrong.) However, there's also scars on my thighs. My right leg has the majority of them, though my left leg is the worst. In 8th grade, I carved the word 'ugly' into my thigh. It's two years later, and it has not faded at all. I thought I had put it high enough on my leg at the time, but boy, was I wrong. I can't wear most shorts anymore, and I can't wear a bathing suit without wearing a cover, or putting on heavy amounts of foundation to cover it up. Say I was dating you, and after a while of dating you, you saw the scars. What would your thoughts be? How would you react? And would that stop you from dating me? This goes for any girl with self-inflicted scars.
As a side note, I do want to throw it out there that I'm not as stupid as I was then, and I made a vow to never, ever do it again. It's pointless. I realize that. I do not harm myself in any way, shape, or form anymore.
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I would date her, even if I knew going in. There are few things from a person's past that are so horrible that they would put me off to who she is here and now. If I found out after dating her for a bit, I would guess that she probably had some difficulties in the past. I would be curious and wait for a quiet, private moment to acknowledge it. Pretending I don't see scars isn't my style. I'd say something like, "I've noticed your scars and I guess you must have been through a lot. You don't need to tell me about it, but I'm here if you ever want to." I certainly wouldn't dump her because of it.1