So to start of we have a long distance relationship so we only see each other like once a month which sucks. Anyways when we first started talking he would text back super fast but after 2 weeks he kept taking a lot longer, but I just assumed he was busy. Now that we're together tho he takes days to text back and it's really annoying he'll just say "Sorry I was busy" And It's a constant thing. Or he'll take hours to reply and most of the time he just replies with "Lol" or "Ohhhhhh" Which is so annoying it's hard to keep a conversation going with him. Also he doesn't work or go to school and he's rarely busy so constantly taking days to reply is sketchy. I don't know I'm not someone who expects a texts every minute but it's bothersome that he takes days. He's a really nice guy I don't want to lose him but it's like we're barely together. What would you suggest doing?
Most Helpful Guy
What do you do? Well, first you communicate with him.
Tell him basically what you are writing here. That doesn't mean you need to get into a fight over it (avoid making the tone harsh) but tell him straight up that you feel he has been distant lately and you'd like to have more communication more. In relationships, a huge part is communication. If it it breaks down, that is when things fall apart. Make your feelings transparent-- it's not like he can read your mind lol.
What I would also suggest doing is doing a bit of a Skype date. That is, pick a day and either call or Skype or facetime or whatever to just hang out. Basically, have a date without actually being in the same place. Maybe you two play a game together online, maybe you watch a movie, maybe you just chill and talk to each other. Having a date set will keep you two interacting. Try to get something more personal than texting. Texting is great and all, but that's more of a small-talk-throughout-the-day sort of thing.
My roommate/friend also has a day that he sets with his girlfriend each week where they just straight up communicate any issues they have in the relationship. That is, they make things transparent and hash things out. It keeps them from breaking down on a continual basis and reforms the walls of the relationship. This thing is, of course, optional, but it's something to at least consider.0
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Most Helpful Girl
it sounds as if he is losing interest or someone/thing else has gotten his attention. unfortunately most LDRs dont work because "out of sight out of mind". if i were you i would suggest meeting a nice guy in your area. start going out more1