Basically, I'm head over heels for my best guy friend of 8 years and I get mixed signals, I'm not sure if he has feelings but sometimes I get a vibe between us that there's something there. I don't wanna play games, I just want to know for sure without risk of miscommunication.
Would this be an okay way of asking him:
I hope this isn't awkward bringing this up, I feel like it shouldn't be because we know we'll always be friends no matter what and this is actually really normal to address between best friends like us. Basically, I'm entering a new phase of my life where I'm gonna be meeting new people with a new job and city next year, I'm really happy with who I am and I'm therefore open to being with someone in the near or distant future for the first time (both of us have never had a relationship)... and I just need to check before I can commit to someone else in the future that we could never be something more. It's cool if this has never crossed your mind, that then answers my question and tells me you're not right for me and we'll be great friends. But it would always be a big 'what if' if I didn't check and I don't want to potentially miss out on something amazing because I never found out.
Most Helpful Guy
My thought is that you start implying that you may not have feelings but you want to know if he has any feelings for you. I think you should say, "I am at a point where I want to have a serious relationship with someone and I would like for it to be very special and amazing. I could search for a long time but there's one person close to me who I already think is a really outstanding guy and it's somebody I think is very attractive. That guy is you; if you have any interest in me, I want us to try being more than friends. But if you don't feel that way, I want us to continue being friends. I hope this doesn't make you uncomfortable but it would be awful if we both wanted it and it never happened because we were afraid to talk about it."1
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Most Helpful Girl
I said something similar to a crush just a few months back (June)
"Went something like this.. "Hey..., I never got the chance to thank you for everything/being around when my mom recently passed away. Even though I've only known you for a short period of time; you openly shared your life with me and knew exactly what to say to make me feel better when I lost her. My friends didn't know how to deal with me in situations like that.
So I just wanted to say thanks for driving me to McDonald's at 3AM because I craved fries, for allowing me to take over your AUX on roadtrips where we'd both get lost in the desert with me and my bad direction. You're good people and for that I just want you to know I appreciate you."
It wasn't really a full on confession but he took it that I liked him. And he let me know that he liked me too. Before he left to go back to States (2 weeks ago) we spent a good amount of time just enjoying the remaining time we had left.
After losing my mom, I tried to stay out of my comfort zone. Do things I'd never dare do. Life is short. Take your chance. Its a hit or miss but at least you know you tried.1
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