I save myself because I deserve to be loved and respected by the man who wants to spend his entire life with me. I fucking don't care about the pleasure that one night stand gives. It is huniliating to allow guys who want your holes use you. And that pleasure one night stand gives is what I can get from my man and even more than just pleasure.
Most Helpful Guy
I dont think self respect has anything to do virginity. Self respect is being able to choose EITHER and being confortable with the choice - to the point where you dont care what others think.
You seem to feel the need to validate yourself against girls who choose to have sex, so i question whether you are actually content in your choice?5
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Most Helpful Girl
I used to feel the same as you. Two years ago, I gave my virginity to my long-term boyfriend who I believed I would marry. But while we were together, I found myself standing up for girls who are slut shamed rather than judging them. Then, when my boyfriend and I broke up this year, I got some advice, from an older woman I highly respect, to go out and "experience" different guys. Learn what I like and whatnot. And why not? I don't lose value every time I have sex. That's a sexist and dated attitude. If a girl enjoys sex and is safe about it, then there's no harm done.2