My boyfriend of almost a year told me the other day that I'm "too nice" all the time and he wants to see my "bitchy side."
I don't really know how to take that, I'm a pretty mellow and easy going person and I like to be nice. To be honest, I don't know if I even have a bitchy side lol.
How do I be less "nice"? Is this something a lot of guys don't like?
Most Helpful Guy
I do not believe this is something a lot of 'guys' like, but more importantly this is a personality trait of the one you're with. This is unique to him just as everyone is unique in their own perspective of what they find attractive and what they desire. That's not to say that 'everyone' is this way. It is more likely he's finding it alluring or seductive for you to have a 'bitchy' side as you call it and wants to see you bring it out. Perhaps he enjoys being with strong, dominant, women and he's hoping perhaps you have that side to your nature, but he doesn't know how to just come right out and tell you this is one of his kinks. Perhaps he's too shy in that regard, or doesn't know exactly why he feels this way, he just does, and he's expressing it to you the only way he understands how. My advice is if this doesn't offend you overly much and you feel inclined to great his request, then by all means show him your bitchy side and have fun with it. If you don't want to, because that's not who you are, then follow your instincts and your heart and do what makes you the happiest. That's my bottom line.2
Most Helpful Girl
Maybe he means give your own opinion more often and say what you want to happen. For me "too nice" means being overly pleasing to ths other person and ignoring your own needs.2