I went on two really great dates with this guy and he definitely seemed interested in me, we kissed passionately after the second date. I instantly felt a connection with him. But the day after our second date he didn't text me at all until I texted him in the evening. After that he never initiated a text until I did. After a few days I thanked him for our second date and would like to do something again sometime and he agreed and if he ever had time because of work. Now it's been over a week since we last spoke and I decided I wouldn't text him until he texts me first but that hasn't happened. What should I do? I really like this guy but I don't know how he feels.
Most Helpful Guy
It is difficult to say for sure realistically, but just going off your positing, I would have to hazard a guess and say you're probably on the right path with your train of thought and if he hasn't gotten back to you by now, then you're not a huge priority in his life, and you could in fact be wasting your time.
You've done your due diligence and given him the opportunity to make the next move. You've text him and let him know your interest, but he doesn't seem to be taking the hint, and now he's not even contacting you, and doesn't do so unless you initiate the contact first. That doesn't bode well for you being high on his list of interests.
Of course, that being said, it is possible he really is that busy with work and he would like to get with you, just hasn't had the time and he's dealing with issues in his life that are distracting him right now, despite the potential he made the same connection with you that you did with him. The problem is that those reasons are not excuses for him ignoring you.
As harsh as it may seem, you need to simply move on and although I would not say forget him, you should instead leave yourself open to other opportunities that may come your way, relationship wise, of course, and not stall your life waiting for him to get back to you as if you are already his girlfriend and you are pining away waiting for him to remember that you're there.
You are going to do what your heart wants, this is true, and if you really want this guy, it is your choice to wait for him or not as you see it, but my advice is to do what you feel is going to make you the happiest, but balance that desire with a realistic view that life is too short to wait for someone forever. Live your life and be happy. Be satisfied that someone's going to make you a priority as you would do them. That's my bottom line.1
Most Helpful Girl
I dont get people like this. If you are interested in the person you show interest! This guy sounds like he is playing games. If you haven't heard from this guy in over a week I doubt you will again. People who use work and other excuses as a way to not make plans are full of it. We all have things going on but we make the time for someone we like or dating. Simple as that. Move on. He obviously is immature and doesn't understand what communication is.1