I am not talking about all woman only those who actually do this. And by this I mean when they are in their early 20s reject and want nothing to do with the typical hardworking, responsible, focused guys who strive to get good grades and do well in school/college because they are too boring and instead spend their time chasing the exciting, over the top outgoing, life of the party kinda guys.
And as they get older (typically late 20s and early 30s) and want to settle down they revert back to those responsible guys who know have stable jobs and who they used to ignored a few years back. Because those party guys won't make decent enough long term partners, from their point of view.
My opinion is that woman who do this are selfish and they have no right to those kind of responsible men when they used to ignore them. The woman who do have the right to pursue them are those that didn't ignore and reject them in the first place.
If a girl likes party guys, then great, good for her. But damn, she has to stick with it, marry one and raise a family with one. She doesn't deserve any of the other guys.
Most Helpful Girl
A lot of girls are more immature than others and vise versa. I'm not into partiers. I like resposible women and men. I at 19 have a husband and 7 month old daughter. Sometimes I wonder what I'd be doing if I weren't with my husband with a daughter, but I'm very glad I have them. I'm living the life of a partier can fun sometimes but in the end I feel like it would be a lonely life. I like women who respect themselves, have a job, are ambitious, silly, smart, have a sense of humor, and have a strong Heart. My husband has all of these qualities and more.
I agree with what you are saying to a point, but in my opinion when these women mature and want the responsible men, then they deserve a responsible man. It would be different if they are still immature. If they're still immature then no, they should not be settling down.0
Most Helpful Guy
I think it might be selfish because you can't just give it up easily to some dumb tool and then expect courting behavior later on (How do you think that makes the guy feel, and how would you feel about that guy? Also it would never be true love, yes you want stability, but now your only marrying for stability and the sex wouldn't feel that great, which is bound to lead to divorce... How does this effect the kids? Because people learn best by example, and as they say like produces like, or the apple doesn't fall far from the tree. If your slutty, no matter how much you try to hide it, it's going to show on your face. Especially your eyes. People are going to see what's up.
If you truly learned your lesson, then I think you should marry other guys that had similar experiences and learned their lesson.
The responsible guys would never truly be able to love her anyways because true love need reciprocation.0