I ruined my life. I am 24 and achieved nothing, never had a boyfriend, no friends, no career, no nothing. What can i do? I go to school but its a shitty education... i am so depressed, how could i let my life pass me by?
Most Helpful Guy
I did that too to some degree, and I'm 50. I spent years watching TV and being introverted. my brogher abused me and my dad was quite mean at times. I had a good mom. You just survive and get past it. Your life hasn't passed by, some of the toughest part of it has. You have a LOT of life ahead. The sooner you look forward, day to day, the better it will be. It helps to get perspective on the past and forgive... yourself and others... becasue what you hold onto controls.
What are you learning in school? why isn't it very good?
where is your father?
do you have energy to do things just don't know what to do?
It really sounds like you need to get out of the house and be somewhere else for a while. there are exchange programs and such where you can live somewhere else, work on a farm, etc.. maybe explore that... but costs $ and be very careful that you trust those involved.0
Most Helpful Girl
Really? At 24? That's NOTHING. You're not a loser. You're just stuck on some things you can't control.
For one, if it's a shitty education, stop wasting your time, effort, and money, and go join university that's better, even if you have to sign up for financial aid. There is no reason to continue doing something that's "shitty". So, look into other colleges and speak with them to see how many credits you can transfer over.
Secondly, if you want friends, you can try to increase your chances to get them by being more out-going and drawing more attention to yourself. When in class, raise your hand to ask or answer a question, or contribute to class discussions with your opinions. That way, you expose a little piece of your personality for others to see, which can draw people toward you, especially if they think you're smart enough to form study groups with. Join any clubs, volunteer work, etc they have there. Try to get a job on campus where your face is seen a lot. Smile at people as you pass them by, and do it routinely until they start remembering you. I've had a few friendships start that way. Go join a gym, or situate yourself around where people are like 5ks, or grand openings, etc.
There's a lot of pressure to having a boyfriend or a girlfriend at certain ages. I too worried about that at 24. But when I kept aging, I honestly, just didn't care anymore, becuase I don't need to have a boyfriend to feel like I"m worth something, or that something isn't wrong with me. I have my whole life ahead of me and there's more to me then things I don't have. I'm not saying your life or circumstances will be like mine. I'm just saying stop being hard on yourself and instead, just continue to live your life until certain things do happen for you.
It's a choice. Your can make changes for yourself, or stay defeated. You are young, there is plenty of time.