I'm seeing this guy, we're like an it's complicated friends with benefits. But anyway, at the start of the year I asked him if he was seeing anyone else because he wasn't treating me like he usually did and to that (to my face) he said no.
i know find out that he was in fact seeing another girl which means he lied to me and he didn't use condoms with her either while he wasn't using them with me.
a month ago he found out he has herpes, I'm clean thank god but do you reckon I can be pissed off about this?
Most Helpful Guy
Well obviously. The problem is, the relationship by its very nature, I would imagine, is one of convenience. ie lacking trust, intimacy, true communication. You're just using each other for sexual gratification, by definition. If that is the case, then haven't you been a little naive? Also, were there signs that maybe you should have spotted?1
Most Helpful Girl
Isn't that basically what friends with benefits is? You have sex with each other with no strings attached, and becuase there are no strings attached, you and even he are allowed to have other multiple partners. He doesn't have to be strictly committed to you. Plus, you said it was kinda complicated, so that tells me you guys weren't officially in a relationship, but just kind of fooling around without really know what you guys are. If you were looking for a full relationship, then that was a red flag you missed.
Now, does it suck that he lied about it? Yeah. If that was one of the conditions that you'd rather have this thing between you and he, and he broke that deal, yeah, I'd be pissed.1