I don't mean dating. I mean FLIRTING.
See at my work place, there's plenty of single dudes roughly my age. And I've found myself flirting with three of them. But not dating, I want to make that clear. I've never even hung out with any of them outside of work. I did hang with one dude, but he's married, and it was like a last minute thing when we both realized we were bored as shit but didn't have work. So no romantic interest there.
But there are three guys, all of whom I would be THRILLED to go on a date with if they asked. One of them I'm POSITIVE has been flirting with me right back. Like that's not even a question, another I'm pretty sure he at least likes being flirted with, though he's kinda shy so I'm never sure if he's flirting back with me or not. Then the last guy is the one who all my bosses seem to think we have a thing for each other, because we do, but I THINK he has a girlfriend, which is why I'm flirting with the other guys, because if he DOES have a girlfriend (I'm still trying to figure it out, if he does, he does NOT talk about her, but I don't wanna like, ruin his relationship).
So I'm still pretty early on in flirting with all of them, with the exception of the dude who might have a girlfriend, but I'm trying to keep my options open in case the others don't even wanna date me. If that makes sense. But I really don't have a lot of experience in dating, so I'm not sure if this is something lots of people do, or something that's just weird and bad. But also what if one ends up being like, a drunk or something and I just don't know about it yet? I'm kind of looking for someone who can go the distance, so yeah, trying to keep my options open.
- Yes it's wrong23% (9)18% (8)20% (17)Vote
- No, go ahead67% (26)69% (31)68% (57)Vote
- Other (Explain?)10% (4)13% (6)12% (10)Vote
Most Helpful Guy
It is not wrong, in my view, so long as everyone is aware of what is going on. That's why I selected 'other'. If everyone is in the know of what you're doing and they are okay with it, then no you're not doing anything wrong per se. However, if you are doing this without the knowledge of everyone involved and you're not taking their feelings into account, then yes you are doing something wrong, you are betraying their trust and you are failing to communicate your true desires and intentions and that is wrong on many levels. Trust and communication are important to any relationship in my view and if you are not holding true to this then you are corrupting something that is meant to be beautiful and amazing and shame on you for that. Just be upfront and honest with those you care about and are in a relationship with, because life is way too short to do otherwise. That's my bottom line.1
Most Helpful Girl
Nope. I lightly flirt with everyone (sometimes even with my own sex, although it comes more so in the form of subtly sucking up lol) and I don't see a problem with it as long as you don't come on too strong with everyone.
The only drawbacks is that sometimes people think you like them and subsequently develop crushes on you that you didn't account for.4