Alright so I'm in a relationship with this guy who: -forces me to give him the passwords to my social media accounts -doesn't allow me to talk to my friends -tells me he hates me -tells me that he hates how "needy" I am -tells me he's going to replace me soon -only starts to say he hates something when he finds out I like it -says I'm an attention whore -doesn't respect me -uses me -ignores me -says he wouldn't really care if I died -threatens me He does tell me he loves me and I'm scared to leave him because I truly love him
1mo I feel like I should add that I have developed severe depression as a result of being in this relationship and the guy is 7 years older than I am
"He does tell me he loves me and I'm scared to leave him because I truly love him" That doesn't mean anything. Everyone says that, and it may seem very obvious to you that you "love" him but you'll see that you can feel the same things for many different people. I also used to claim to "love" my ex so much but now that I cut him off completely I'm just like "Was I crazy all that time?". I don't see anything lovable in him anymore, not even a tiny bit. Trust me, it fades away.
What you are describing here is terrible and it's a vicious circle because the more abuse you accept now you more there will be in the future. I read in one of the opinions that you don't think you can get anyone better because you have low self-esteem. Well, you'll reinforce this silly idea by staying with him. It's paradoxical because you are staying with him to gain something you don't think you would get with someone else (some kind of an ego satisfaction about feeling accepted; not being lonely etc.) but he is reinforcing everything you want to avoid by staying with him. You are still young, you'll evolve and your perception of yourself is very likely to change, especially at that age. But only if you can be at peace with yourself and that can't be done by staying with him.
I was also in an abusive relationship and I only progressively started realizing the breadth of the damage it has caused in me months later after I left. I knew it was abuse, but some part of me was covering it up and making it seem "not that bad after all". That may be your case as well, but just move on.
Why in hell you agreed to give him your passwords?
It is like giving someone a spy cam for recording everything you do, and give permission to go to your bank and get your money. I won't do that even with the people I trust the most, also because it would be risky for them.
He is abusing you. I would leave the relationship.
please move the hell away from him. He doesn't deserve you
Ladies and gentlemen save your breath. Nothing to do here.
"He does tell me he loves me and I'm scared to leave him because I truly love him"
This is the case of a girl who knows what she needs to do. She knows. YOU KNOW MATE. There is nothing we say here that you haven't thought of, read about or heard that hasn't been told to you before. You recognize your relationship is abusive. This is something you at least have that may help you in the distant future.
I sincerely do wish you the best in finding the courage to leave what you find familiar. I think more so than love you're stuck because the feeling of familiarity.
Leave this guy before things get worse. THIS IS YOUR best option. It's up to you to listen before you truly regret what the future may hold for you mate.
What the fuck are you doing? The man is 22. If he isn't treating you like a gentleman, then leave. He shouldn't be dating a child in the first place. Please, walk away while you still can. "Love" is a strong word and rarely means anything in this world.
I'm not trying to be mean about your decisions. I myself am "dating" a 41 year old. Maybe 42. He says he "loves me" every single day, but I never believe it, and I have no reason to. A grown man cannot love a child in that way. He's using me, and I think that man you're dating is using you. I can't leave because he's all I have, but you can.
If he's controlling you now, it isn't going to get better. My mother's ex started abusing her gradually. First he would tell her not to see her friends or drink at the bar. Then, he'd fight with her whenever she got drunk. He lived with us for a year. At the end of a year, we had holes in 3 of our doors and he was threatening to kill my family. He'd choke and hit my mom, and yell awful words at her. My mother cut him out of our life when he threatened to put his hands on me and called me a "little shit." Please, just leave. Don't allow yourself to go through that.
Uh... Did you read the things you type up? Think of it this way: if you had a daughter and she said this was the relationship she was in, how would you feel about it. He's not good news. If he says he's going to replace you, then you may as well get the last word and leave. He doesn't deserve you.