OK, so my boyfriend. is the best thing that has ever happened to me. He is 17 years old and we have known each other since we were little. He asked me out on Tuesday and has been coming over every night to chat and visit since. BUT, now he can't come over anymore... we can still call and email and video chat, but I have such a hard time emotionally when it comes to a "long-distance" relationship... in other words, every time I think about not being able to hug him and hold his hand and just be near him makes me cry! :'(
How do I handle this? HELP
1mo what I'm saying is, I am very emotional, its literally. a medical thing I was born with. (Called RAD) Basically, I. have a hard time. making relationships with people and when I do I'm always afraid they won't last no matter what. I also think that I might have some serperaton anxiety from those I care for... I'm trying to ask how I mentally handle Tue stress...
Well always remember it's only a matter of time before you'll be hugging and holding hands. In the meantime, while this draws closer to happen, you've got stuff to do with your very own business nobody but you will take care of. Love is nice, but you gotta be able to be less dependant. I also hope he deserves all that love, too. Because if he didn't, I can only imagine the blow you'd take. You seem to have a lot of love to give. Don't you have a sibling or parents for that too? ;)
Seek professional help. You are too young to feel this way over a guy who is also young. You are going to develop many relationships over your young adult life and form connections. Some you will keep, others you won't. Learn to let go. If your attachment to every one is that strong, you will spend your life miserable. You don't have to be around someone you care about all the time to make it work. If he cares about you, he is still thinking about you in a good way, and that is all you should need to make you feel secure.
Well stay strong kid! LDR are hard and not easy... especially even you are very young... but in later time you two might reconcile... And You two will be happy :-)
Maybe seek couseling or self therapy options for the issues you do have, you. might get some gold nuggets from. there you can keep to help grt through those times and later on in life during any hardships. Learning to deal with emotions and investing in mental well being is a great thing to do.
Hmm.. in order to determine whether your relationship will actually last and not built on lust and infatuation (like so many millennial relationships are), you'll need to see if it can hold up to long distance. Let see if without the sex, both of you can be faithful and still have an interest in one another.