And by dangerous i mean mentally. I've had some shit luck when it comes to dating. The two times I've felt closest to a relationship, where i thought it was mutual, it ended abruptly.
The worst part was I had a ton in common with and clicked with them on many levels. When you have positive interaction and enjoy doing things together, it can overshadow anything negative. I also was blown away by these people and got attached early, which rarely happens.
I'm a person who doesn't look for problems if no red flags exist. But the first girl who rebounded on me, I didn't know what a rebound was and how they worked. The first one complained about her ex and I felt bad for her. Then she wanted me to trash talk her ex and I didn't like it. She kept on showing lots of interest and then once I showed interest back, she ditched me and went back to the ex she complained about. It fucked me up for months and I felt like I was on the rebound as I dated a girl a few months over her and realized I wasn't over the one who rebounded on me.
The most recent one, I even had a ton more in common with and was even more attractive. Not to put her on a pedestal but it felt like we'd known each other for a long time. We even made out to one of my favorite bands
After our first date, she told me she just got out of a 5 year relationship. I got worried because having been rebounded a couple years ago, I told myself Id never do that. She didn't complain about the ex but acted hot and cold. Like she'd text and hit me up through social media but would never ask to hang out till a few weeks later then she started hitting me up more and I felt closer.
Then last week I found out something fucked up and she ditched me. It really screwed me up because I felt led on and even though I proceeded with caution, I still got fucked over. What made it worse was how much we had in common. If it was someone I didn't care about, it wouldn't have bothered me. I felt like a psycho for being depressed.
Most Helpful Girl
You need to be on guard!
Do you love me more than your ex? If yes, dump. If no, tell them never talk about their ex again.
Would you ever get back with an ex if you could?
If yes, dump them.
If no, tell them to never ever talk about their ex again.
Do you really like me? If not, dump them.
If yes, don't ever cheat on me. If you do, I will never forget it and be so angry with you.
I can't think of anything else but yay, being a rebound sucks. I think I was a rebound even though she dumped him six years ago. She was his first and he was in love.0
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Most Helpful Guy
I know the feeling let a few girls get Menough that way too which is why with situations like that you don't put to much of your self out there evaluate the girl and the whole situation take it slow see where her head is at first.0