Please no hate and when I say this I'm serious looking for advice. Thank you
I'm only 20 and I've tried dating different guys my age but I'm just not interested. If I'm out walking around and I see an attractive man he's always at least in his mid 30s never have I seen a guy my age and thought "Wow I like that"
If I'm talking to younger men I tend to get bored where as if I'm talking to a much older man that I like I get the whole butterflies and so forth.
Basically I just want to know if this is normal? I haven't acted on any of these feelings because I fear It'll be frowned upon
(These are regarding both physical and emotional attraction)
Most Helpful Guy
I have seen these sorts of "is it normal" questions many times on GAG, and while there are many guys who will often revert to the idea that younger women being attracted to older men is a scenario which points towards "Daddy" issues. I don't always believe that is the case. To be sure there will be some ladies out there that seem to be trying to fix daddy issues. However I would like to believe more often than not, it simply comes down to preferences.
I believe that, based on what you have described that it is your preference to seek out older men, which is completely fine, as to why this has become your presence? Well as you have indicated, much of this attraction is based on both appearances as well as maturity. While it's not impossible, it is somewhat of a challenge to be wise when you are young, as there are many lessons in life, which in order for them to be completely learned must be experienced and you can't get that level of experience until you have lived a little. Other factors which play into this attraction are the fact that older men are generally more stable and established in their lives. There is nothing more frustrating than trying to establish a relationship with a guy who 1. doesn't know who he is, 2. Doesn't know what he wants, and lastly doesn't know what he is looking for in a relationship with you. Simply put, it's really hard to get to a destination if you can't even decide to get on the train.
The last idea I have regarding preference has to do with what I call your first sexual "impression". What I mean by this is sort of a two fold sort of a situation, which dictates recounting your first awareness of sexuality and what the subject of your fascination was. How old were you when you started to have sexual feelings, what caused these feelings (if anything at all) and was there somebody who these feelings were focused on, was there a significant age difference? All of these sorts of things will have an effect on how you feel both about sex and sexuality as well as how you view your world around you.
Just a few ideas on why you might feel the way you feel. To be sure the person that knows the best is you, however perhaps through thinking on some of these ideas it might help you make some discoveries about yourself. :-)1
Most Helpful Girl
Its not terrible. I started fooling around with an older guy when I was 19 and since then I lost all interest in guys my age. I have been dating an older guy now for 3 years straight. Older men are way sexier amd smarter. I have more in common with older people anyways. I often joke that the only I have in common with people my age is being born in the 1990s lol. Funny but true. Nothing wrong with it, older is usually wiser.0