I was having this discussion with a friend who asked my opinion on the matter, since I'm a person of color. (FYI: I'm black)
Do I believe in sexual racism? Yes and no. I believe there are folks out there, who won't message me back or any other person of color based on their skin. I mean, it's not like we went on a date, but that's fine. I don't want a pity fuck or message lol. As a black man, I prefer to date Latinas, or Asian women. Nothing against other races but that's my preference. That's the thing though, if I happened to date a white or black girl, then it's fine! I'm not going to deny her anytime of day for something any person can't control or has no say in which race they were born in.
Its really hard for a blue eyed blonde like me to deal with everybody on online dating and it annoys me when guys you dont want flood your inbox.. 1st of all i am not racist, i am just deadly picky, So i tend to put on my profile that i strongly prefer ONLY whites and Latinos and yet i still get flooded by blacks & Asians & all this other shit so its hard for me to find what i like!! And it is why some girls lose their cool and just flat out put , "no blacks" Nothing racist just trying to SAVE TIME
I found that i didn't like a girl differently cause she was white or Asian, i cared about if i could actually have a converstation with them for more then ten minutes, so that how i feel, do i think it exists? No, its more of a socal thing then a race thing
Im black my self, light black but i love light brown Latinos, its just that they are so cute but it seems that Latinos only date latinas. I've dated just 2 Mexican guys and i loved it. But i dont discriminate, if you are cute ill date u but its more than just being cute
Yes. I know girls who don't date black guys because they don't want their babies to come out darker.
On the other hand, I've met non-black girls who ONLY want to date black guys. Which is the same as a white person saying I only want to date white people, or Hispanic saying I only want to date Hispanics, so I don't think that would be considered racist.
What can anyone accomplish by shoving the concept of racism into people's sex lives which is the most private part of their lives?
If a person is truly racist and rejects blacks based only on her or his racist beliefs, then what do you want to do about it? Force her to marry a black man? Force him to have sex with a black girl?
You can't. It's people's sex lives, their very private lives. You can't control it.
The only thing that you will accomplish, is accusing people, or giving this tool to people that are sad often after being rejected, to accuse people of racism and make trouble for them because they haven't preferred this particular person for whatever reason.
Just forget about it. Don't think about it. When someone likes you, he/she likes you for whatever reason. When someone doesn't prefer you, he/she doesn't, for whatever reason. Reason doesn't matter, because it's people's sex lives. Their private lives. You can't complain.
As for men I only let white men fuck me. It's just my preference. I will date women of any race but black ladies will always go to the front of the line. The thing I like best about the black ladies I've dated so far is they're kinky, perverted and twisted just like I am. They seem so uninhibited and in control of their sex lives.
People can have racial preferences but it does not mean they are racist. But at the same time yes it does exist, but for other reasons besides preference. But sometimes racial preferences CAN look like racism, it's kinda complex and stupid if you ask me LOL.
this term sexual racism just cheapens the term racism. You are attracted to who you are attracted to and that is it just like gay guys aren't sexist they are just attracted to guys you aren't racist for not being attracted to certain races.
I've been getting so many messages on okcupid and pof by black and white girls but i dont believe they want something serious other than a party. I tend to date latinas more because there are so many fine Latinas that can look white or Asian or black and still speak Spanish
No, I think it is just preference. Which is not to deny that sometimes that preference is based in racism, but by itself it isn't an indication. I don't rule out dating any particular race, but I don't judge those that do.