I've never had a boyfriend, and the only thing I've ever done with a guy was make out when I was a freshmen in high school. (Which I only did because of peer pressure). Both my sister and brother are in college and I always see them on snapchat going to these crazy parties and things. I also hear a lot of people talk about all the sex and trying different sexual things in college. I'm at this point were I wouldn't mind getting more sexually adventurous, but at the same time I'm worried that it will hurt and that the guy I'm doing it with won't care. My sister even told me that guys in college don't want a relationship, they just want sex. I wish I could just fuck someone to get everything over with, but I know that would probably end up being a really bad idea. Overall I'm just nervous about what other people will think about my inexperience.
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You have a healthy attitude in that you're eager to get into the game and you also have very legitimate concerns. If your instinct is that you want a guy that cares about you, who is going to worry about causing you pain, who isn't just seeing you as a conquest, then go with that instinct. The kind of guy you're looking for is out there. Of course you only hear about the crazy stuff; it's interesting! But not everyone is doing all that. And while your sister is right about a large majority of guys, that's not every guy.
As far as worrying what everyone will think… stop! Do what's right for you. Inexperience is valued by some (often for questionable reasons) and experience is often shunned (unfairly). The "standards" women are expected to live up to are impossible and absurd. No matter how much or how little experience you have, you'll find someone who is going to judge you for it. So worrying about what others think is a no-win proposition.
Have fun, but be as selective as you want to be. I wish you all the best as you start this exciting time in your life!1