My whole life I was bullied and told I wasn't pretty, there was a time one guy said he rather kill himself than be with me. and it has made me very insecure. I no longer believe in compliments and every single time a guy says something nice to me. All I think is that they're just making fun of me or it's a prank. what should I do?
How do you get over bullying? and start dating?
What Guys Said 22
First bullying is rough and I know first hand how hard it can be on a person it wasn't until I met my life partner that I started to get over my insecurities and it is still a struggle. That being said opportunities have to be allowed to the new people in your life. If you don't have anyone you can trust in your life dress up put on what ever makeup you feel the most comfortable in (this could be none at all if you don't like makeup) and walk around a shopping center. You can usually tell the general reaction to the public based on the looks you get and any spontaneous reactions you get where someone stops you to tell you they like your hair or your jeans are 99% of the time honest.
I mention this last part just because you were bullied if the only reactions you see in the general public are disgust then you should seek professional medical help you could be suffering from a psychological disorder caused by long term abuse1
Well, you're definitely not ugly. Just be approachable to guys, the most important thing is to smile and laugh, and if they ask for your number or ask you out just go along from there. Most guys will be willing to do almost all the work in courting as long as you show them you're into them and having a great time.1
Sounds to me like some symptoms of ptsd. This reminds me of how some war veterans have flash backs to when they were on the front lines that was triggered by a loud sound that sounded like a gun shot, so it was as if they were there again.
I think a lot of people can relate to your situation. There is a saying that goes "when you forgive someone it sets you free" because holding a grudge is like poison to the brain. Hope this might help.1
I been a severe bullied victim in school. How i got over it was just go with the flow i know how you feel cause i see myself. The only thing you can do is just open your heart up but we all got do something and that is stop building walls to block people from coming into our life's. Best Wishes1
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It will take you time and effort admitting what is worng and how u feel its the first step
Now started to have more male friends maybe with time they will change your view on dating1
Learn to live with it and just stay single. That's worked for me.1
Trust me , you are not ugly you are the opposite of it.1
hun if thats your pic you are not ugly
you look fine1
Compliment yourself look in the mirror at the beautiful person you are let that long time hurt go and accept a guysing compliment possibly compliment back and you never where that could go. People will have opions all of life but none of it matters when it's random who mean nothing to your life.0
Ignore them. I've been going through constant sexual harassment and assault, bullying and rape accusations when I told my class I was raped by a girl. I also deal with clinical depression. This also happened very recently. But I still have a supportive girlfriend who I will move out with when I'm financially stable. If all the guys at your school are rude and are bullies. Then I don't think you should date right now. I deal with the opposite of you. Most girls try and hit on me. Get in my way. Punch me or slap me because I can't do anything to them because I'll most probably get suspended. If they try and push you or punch you I recommend talking to people that support you.1
just start saying thank you and smile. i think your pretty, id date you.1
You don't. Getting laid is easy. Use that anger to transform yourself into a beast.1
When I come up with an answer I will let you know. I got bullied constantly, and my dad was a "blackout rage" kind of guy. I'd get pummeled constantly.
Add to that I think just about every girl screaming at me over the tiniest things, that makes a lot of anxiety to this day.
Any compliment I tend to hear is mostly about my work. I can usually separate it hat and accept it with a thank you. But it's rare when it's about things outside of work... And it IS usually meant as a prank or to butter me up to get something, so I've learned not to trust it. I just say thanks, but I watch for the hidden meaning which usually comes very soon after the "compliment."
I'm only slightly confrontational about it to friends or my mom. I try not to be nasty, but I'm honest about Not accepting some token line or biased fake compliment because you're a friend who has to say it to not come across as a jerk...1
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What Girls Said 1
I faced something similar growing up and it still has an effect on me in dating. I strongly recommend finding a therapist to see. I have found that has helped more than anything. Also daily affirmations where you counter everything in your head. Every morning get up and repeat things such as "I am worthy of being loved"2
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