My whole life I was bullied and told I wasn't pretty, there was a time one guy said he rather kill himself than be with me. and it has made me very insecure. I no longer believe in compliments and every single time a guy says something nice to me. All I think is that they're just making fun of me or it's a prank. what should I do?
Most Helpful Guy
When I come up with an answer I will let you know. I got bullied constantly, and my dad was a "blackout rage" kind of guy. I'd get pummeled constantly.
Add to that I think just about every girl screaming at me over the tiniest things, that makes a lot of anxiety to this day.
Any compliment I tend to hear is mostly about my work. I can usually separate it hat and accept it with a thank you. But it's rare when it's about things outside of work... And it IS usually meant as a prank or to butter me up to get something, so I've learned not to trust it. I just say thanks, but I watch for the hidden meaning which usually comes very soon after the "compliment."
I'm only slightly confrontational about it to friends or my mom. I try not to be nasty, but I'm honest about Not accepting some token line or biased fake compliment because you're a friend who has to say it to not come across as a jerk...1
Most Helpful Girl
I faced something similar growing up and it still has an effect on me in dating. I strongly recommend finding a therapist to see. I have found that has helped more than anything. Also daily affirmations where you counter everything in your head. Every morning get up and repeat things such as "I am worthy of being loved"2