So I know it really does come down to the individual but if you were to look at the big picture what's your personal opinion?
I ask this because I've been dating a man (45) and I'm much younger (19) he's a very attractive man and girls do tend to go after him. I occasionally introduce another female into our sex life for both our benefit and I've always trusted him. No questions asked but someone made a comment about how "all" older men cheat if they're into younger girls and it got me thinking. I know it comes down to trust and I can be irrational sometimes (I have a lot to learn) but what are your thoughts? Thank you loves, please be open minded xx
27d As an update I want to mention I don't appreciate people throwing around the word "pedophile" a pedophile is someone (correct me if I'm wrong) who is attracted to young children. I am of age and by far past that point. Second I want to add that he spent a long time mentoring me before I made the move to make things more physical. He was teaching me about his business and giving me some very valuable skills in life. I fell for the fact he was able to mentally stimulate me. Thank you
You already hit the nail on the head and struck straight into the wood it is all about personality. The fact that he is dating a much younger woman does say something about his personality. If he is the nurturing type where he tries to help guide you in life then he is unlikely to cheat. If he is the abusive type where he is only interested in the sex then he will leave when you stop being his type, either by age or by physical appearance.
On a side note our society doesn't always respond well to age differences but for more than a thousand years your age differance would have been normal. A man couldn't have afforded or cared for a wife until he was 35-40 and then the prime marrying age for females was 16
One of the things I learned as i got older was that, looks are secondary ot mind. Looks are important... BUT I wouldn't want to stay with a girl that couldn't mentally stimulate me.
If all our conversations devolve into frivolous chit chat and I don't see any progressive intent to develop herself or broaden her ideas. I don't see myself wanting to stay with that person.
I felt that way when i was younger also, i didn't really fully believe that girls are always more mature, definitely not the case. A lot of guys would just fuck a younger girl for her looks because she is hot but there's nothing there to keep them to stay. That's pretty standard and a lot of those girls get confused why he left.
Look, he doesn't expect you to be completely mature. Also, if he is dating you and you occasionally introduce another girl in for sex, why would he cheat? He gets to have his cake and eat it too. I really wouldn't sweat it.
Well yea obviously, I mean you can fool yourself all you want but the main reason for a 45 year old to date a 19 year old is sex, and because he is fucked in the head tbh, dating someone old enough to be his daughter.
Not all but it seems to me that those guys tend to leave their girlfriend / wife for a younger girl once she isn't attractive to him anymore. I think they have some problems with aging but well u can't stay physically young forever
Well, seeing as relationships with huge age gaps rarely work, I'd say if it's not cheating, something else will drive a wedge between y'all. Don't hate me for this, but statistically relationships with little to no age gap do much better, the bigger the gap, the less the compatability. And don't come at me with exceptions "my sister's boyfriends ex wife's cousin's real estate agent got married to a much older lady and they're still together!" Exceptions don't disprove statistics. Sorry.
I'm honestly not sure. I was 17 and was dating this 58 year old man who I found out was doing the same stuff with other younger girls at the same time. My Husband is only 5 years older than me which isn't as big of a gap, but some consider it a big age gap. Well he'd never cheat on me at all.