This Friday I'm going on a date. This person isn't so much my type tho, he listens to good music and he's nice and sweet, we met online. He's not a bad looking guy just not really someone I would point out in a crowd of people and be like I think he is cute, but I also didn't think my ex was all that cute, who I also met online the first time I saw his face I was like ehhhhh he isn't cute at all but once I started to fall for him even more I was like alright I could see someone having a crush on him. So I'm curious as to if this could play off similar?
This guy seems really cool. I haven't been the best with him. This is a horrible thing on my part but when my ex and I got into a fight and broke up I started talking to this guy again and we were going to meet up but then my stupid ex apologized like crazy and made me think that he changed so then I started to ignore this guy again and while I was with my ex this guy would constant message me on snapchat but I never replied back to him. However now that my ex and I are 100% done he was abusive mentally and I'm tired of him and his stupidity. I'm finally deciding to meet up with this guy and I am excited but for some reason I'm just not feeling as much as I felt it with my ex when we first started talking. I don't know I mean I've know this guy for nearly a year now and he still tries getting with me even when I never reply back. So I feel like this guy is super super sweet.
I mean you can't really know how well something will go until you finally go on a date or two right? I just don't want it to be one of those he's super sweet and nice and so into me that it turns me off and I'm not into him because of that, because that what always happens. Like I almost never dated my ex because he got so into me so fast just for him to not like me at all. He never loved me and I don't want to put this guy through what my ex did to me.
I'm scared of getting hurt again. But this guys seems like a good one even since he's still trying to get me after a year of me just pulling him on a leash. I don't know, I feel like a jerk sometimes and this guy deserves better but I could also be overthinking this too much. I'm just scared
Most Helpful Guy
Stop, just stop. All of this worrying and trying to fix something that isn't broken. I don't understand what you're asking us for. This boy clearly likes you and clearly doesn't mind being cast aside by you when you think you have a better option so why not ride it out? He has put in the time and stayed interested in you while you clumsily figured out your shit with your ex, he deserves at least a shot. I'm not saying you owe him sex, or even a relationship, but he has shown you patience and that he cares for you. So the least you could do for him is give him a shot without you thinking about your ex or if he is cute enough. Just get to know him outside of him being that back up man. If he is a turd then move on, but if you give him a good shot and he shows you he is a good guy go for it.
Personally I think it would be best if you took a break in between relationships especially in this situation because now no matter what this guy will be linked to your ex in your mind. If I where you I would relax, focus on myself, and figure out where I am in my life and what I need before going after another maybe.0
Most Helpful Girl
Takes about 3 or 4 dates for a gal to start feeling it with a new guy. The worst thing you can do is compare. Don't compare the feelings you get for your former flames. No two guys in your lovers will be alike. Sometimes you will find attraction months into meeting someone. Just give this guy a fair chance and see where it goes.0
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