I'm gonna try and summarize this the best I can. I had/have a huge crush on this girl, she would always look over at me, and try to talk to me. One day, she wanted me to sit next to her, and so I did. We talked, and joked, and I ended up getting her snapchat. A little time lead on, and we continued to sit next to each other and I asked her "do you want to get lunch sometime", she told me "maybe one day!". Since I wasn't very descriptive, and since it was a "maybe" I said I would ask again. We again still talk in class and so on.
So, the weekend comes, and I pop an actual question, asking if she wants to go out on this day, to this thing, at this time. She said she couldn't because she already had plans this weekend. Well, according to her snapchat stories she was out doing things, so it wasn't a lie, but she didn't make an effort to reschedule. She sort of went cold on me for a day or two, then started talking to me a little again. I see her again tomorrow, but I don't know how to proceed.
I don't know if I should try and sit next to her in class again, after she went sort of cold on me, and I don't want it to be awkward. I have a slight glimpse or hope I guess that she likes me, but I don't know. I do know though, that since I like her, my brain will continue to perceive kindness and so on, as flirting, but if someone can just help me reinforce the situation, I may be better able to handle it. So if she isn't interested I can simply look at her as a friend, or if she is, I can try asking her out again. So, anyone have an input?
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Its a little too early to say one way or the other. You've done the right thing to make it apparent that you aren't there to be friends or in the friendzone so you are on the right track.
I would personally give it one more chance since it sounds like she was legitimately busy, however you should of followed with "oh cool no problem, when is a better time?" So this time if she shoots you down, ask her when a better time would be. If she says I'll let you know, wait until she lets you know, if she just says I have no idea, then sounds like she's not into it.
At the very least it sounds like you should just let it go if she keeps making herself unavailable. If she's into you she'll want to hang out. If you are getting a lot of pushback on trying to hang-out especially if you ask her when she has time, then chances are she's just trying to be nice instead of telling you there's no chance.