I recently had a guy break up with me. His reasons were related to us being long distance (different countries) but I feel he maybe used it as an excuse.
If you really want someone wouldn't you try to make it work regardless?
I said I understood his reasons and have left him alone, not contacted him for over a week but I really miss him. If everything else was good apart from the distance do you think he will come back to me?
"If you really want someone wouldn't you try to make it work regardless? " Yes, if you REALLY wanted THIS VERY SPEIAL someone. I mean it's not impossible but it takes a lot of love and loyalty. I would NEVER break up for this reason, but I would be reluctant to build a relationship like this. "but I really miss him. " Shit I'm sorry. But well apparently he does not miss you so maybe you should take his approach to this issue. "If everything else was good apart from the distance do you think he will come back to me? " Probably, but he still isn't very trustworthy, is he? It doesn't take much for him to break up.
I say that it's just that time move on and not waste your time with him anymore. Local relationships are much more practical than long distance relationships. If he doesn't feel he wants to invest anymore time and effort into this relationship with you all because of distance then there's not more you can really do, as he just decide to give up on it altogether.
One of my closest long time friends irl had a long distance relationship with a girl for 8 years. 8 years. They are now happily married irl. It works. Long distance just isn't for some people. Not anyone can handle it and make it work. Most people who can't handle it often do not have the maturity to admit/accept that they can't handle it, which is why you see most of them fail.
I believe in longneck distance relationships. I was in a similar one for 4 years, until we broke up for reason other than mentioned. I would definitely work for it.
All long distance relationships end. Every single one. Either the distance closes, or you break up (duh).
If neither of you are willing to spend money to visit each other at least a few times a year, text/Skype each other every day even if only for a few minutes, and eventually relocate, you are doomed to fall into the latter.
No,. you need constant physical contact to be a real relationship. If you are far away like that, you are just "penpals"
We're you two actually intimate? Did you go visit each other often? Did you even meet him? Long distance rarely works out unless both are terribly in love because they have actually shared time together and one makes the compromise to move to the other country. Otherwise, stick to reality.
Yes they can work if both people wanna make it work. I've been long distance with my boyfriend for almost a year. (It'll be a year in January). We see each other as much as we can, but obviously not as much as we want lol.