Like at the beginning of the relationship he was cooking, doing laundry, never playing video games and always up for exploring.
Now it's none of it. He said he had to impress me but now that we are together, he doesn't have to anymore.
Have you been treated this way? At the beginning they are someone else, then they change to who they really are.
- Yes it is78%(21)76%(39)Vote75%(18)
- No it's not22%(6)24%(12)Vote25%(6)
Most Helpful Guy
When you first meet, each tries to be the very best of themselves, and like what the other likes, to get into the relationship, well, most do. Later, as they 'relax' with each other, they return to who they really are, and then decide they don't like each other!! Some actually marry, and sadly, some have kids!!!
Why can't people just be themselves, meeting, and if you don't like them, as the REAL them, then move on! No harm, no foul!!
Why waste months, pretending, only to have it end badly, when you finally figure out that they are not what they pretended to be, and you were lying, saying you liked sht that you HATE!!!
Just be HONEST, and BE YOU, and don't waste all that time, endure the drama, and maybe have kids or get married, believing lies!!
Real LIFE isn't like that!0
Most Helpful Girl
Of course. It is always an ACT until you start seeing how they REACT. They always put on the best versions of themselves to get you hooked right in. If your referring this to your husband, yes. It is considered as marriage fraud. He was being fraudulent with you just to get you. Many men do this. They put in so much energy, especially when it comes down to sex before marriage and once they get married, then its an excuse of why should they lift up a finger to help you, you should serve 'me' attitude.
Overall the video games are not the problem, but its him being a sloth and most men become this in marriage after a while. And in the end it becomes a burden to the wife, yet they want to know why women complain, is a nag or a hag in a bag and is always fussing. How were unreasonable [unless its proven to be actually true with the person], and were over ally emotional! Men makes it feel this way because of what they do. They think going to work, being the breadwinner and helping us conceive kids is enough. Its not.
There are still simple jobs men can do and provide in the house:
-Pick up and CLEAN up after themselves
-Help with dinner or at least help clean the dishes
-Offer to do the laundry once in a while
-Make up the bed, neatly. [it only takes 5 minutes of your life!]
-Gentlemen, help her take care of your kid. Period. Especially when she just helped give birth to them? She is bound to be out of commission for a few days at best. And of course when she get surgery or is stuck at the hospital.
If the guy can do all the things mother and wives can do like my great grandfather did for my great grandmother did. It would be a blessing to many good wives, to those that deserve good husbands. My great grandfather was raised by his single mother. And learned how to do the mans work and a woman's job. He helped his wife, my grandmother and late mother and aunt with everything. He would braid their hair, cooked full meals, went shopping without question, did laundry, work of course, and raised them when she was very sick for a while in and out the hospital. Got firewood, build and invent things, and did other manly duties as well. Nowadays many men and women included are not fit to be wives or husbands let alone parents. If people cannot use discernment and wisdom when choosing a spouse or dating partner, then its a major problem.
Overall you married whom you married, you still put your foot down, love them and continue to be an example.1