We basically ended up having "the talk". I told him I liked him and he said he can't commit to anything serious right now because he isn't ready and didn't want to hurt me. But then at the end he was like "I know I'm blowing it. I don't know what I'm doing" what does this mean? I don't understand.
It means he wants to have his cake and eat it too.
Back off from him for awhile and the truth will come out. Either he'll pursue something more or he'll walk away. It's hard to do but you'll know where you stand and won't waste years of your life (like I did once) waiting for him to make up his mind.
If you're cool with not having something more serious then just go with the flow.
He's confused. He might want you, probably does, but he doesn't know what he wants, and he's not sure enough to commit to you. he needs some space and I'd suggest he sit down with a counselor as one part of moving this forward, the other part is he work on some self confidence in sorting out his emotional self, cause he's not all MAN yet. because...
He's a bit weak to say "I didn't want to hurt you". well by not telling you, he dragged you along and wasted your time. But that's all related to him not knowing what he wants or confidence, and not being clear. The man has to do that and he can't. honestly, I've been there and we all get confused and unsure, and have to work through it. So he just needs to own it. The woman needs clarit on where the man is at. He's really being a bit lame if you can see through it. That's ok... to teh point you recognize it, see that he needs to work on himself, and then you can both sort this out. Or, you cna't handle that and you move on.
He thinks you're great and doesn't want to lose you but doesn't feel he's mature enough emotionally to commit to s relationship - and knows that by saying that you may walk away and he could potentially be losing the best thing that's ever happened to him. Make sense?
It means he likes you and he is still getting over someone else. He doesn't want to get invested in something new yet because he is still healing. Just give him time and stick around. Let it flow naturally and don't try and force it.
With having 'The Talk," which I Believe is good Here, dear, it has Let you see Now Somehow... Where you Stand with this Man. He is telling you he Doesn't want a Real Relationship and even though he Likes you, he Feels too he could Blow it, by perhaps you Saying..."Sorry, Charley, Take a walk." He is Confused a bit of How it might End up. He knows the Ball and All is in your Court. Good luck. xx
Let him go. He knows the consequences of what he is doing but he is prepared to walk away from you. You only chance is to let him go and he may miss you. Just do it on very friendly terms so he has good memories of you.