Im 18, and have no girl experience. Some girls have liked me, but I never took opportunity. I've tried to get with girls, but no luck, and for the past year I've kind of just quit. But i wonder, and i look at all the dudes I know who so easily can get girls to like them, and can always be dating someone. And i look at all these pick up artists and i just marvel out how they make a living off of teaching guys to get girls. I mean, how can you not be the happiest guy alive if you can so easily and so confidently get women to sleep with you and to date you? Wouldn't the validation of being liked make me feel amazing every single day? or is there a catch? to any of these guys, is there any down side to getting a lot of *****? can't think of any on my part.
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there is more to life than just finding someone to spend the rest of your life... like building your character and finding your calling in life... but yes finding a suitable mate is important but it is not the only thing that is important... some people like me find religion to be SUPER IMPORTANT!!2
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Well, there's a lot of parts to your post there (many 'PUAs' are conmen, for example). I will admit that it took a lot of work for me to become a master pick-up artist - mainly due to my circumstances - but even when I had amazing game, every girl I talked to was a fresh challenge.
There are a lot of sad cases who think they are seductive, when in actual fact they just have good social proof, have money, are in the right place at the right time, and the girl is conveiniently drunk.
Having ACTUAL game is indeed an ego boost. It's great to look back on all the girls, but in the end that pride is operating on the same dynamic as the lack of it from not having intimacy - it's still from the void.
In fact, as much as I absolutely love loving women, the main thing left is just the number - how many girls I've been with. Maybe I'll have a few compliments to add to my pleasant memories too, and richer/more informed fantasizing, but... as much as it IS the most important thing in a man's life, there's plenty of mild emptiness in it too, and in some ways, your conquests will fade into the past.
Finally, what I experienced from being a casanova: Casanovas DRINK!!!
Women turned me, like most/all lotharios, to alcohol (and even to near-suicide). Furthermore, it is very difficult to respect women when you get nothing from being a decent, honest man... and then start using tricks and suddenly having to write down girls names because you've been with so many you don't remember them all at once. When you know girls won't f*** you as a good man 'just being yourself', but will f*** a manipulative man using hollow tricks, how do you reflect on that and see women as anything but totally shallow?
This has been my experience anyway. So yes, there are downsides, but, as your title wisely suggests, there can seem to be no more to life than getting girls. Not because there isn't more to life, but because it is so essential and yet we are not being allowed these basic physiological needs. If men refused women access to Water, I dare say we'd be complaining that they call us 'water objects' too!
Good topic! :-)0