I've made out with this guy twice - I know he wants to have sex but I only do that with people I have an emotional connection with and told him that it takes time for me, and he said it's fine anyway, probably because I've been really sexy with him. He's in a frat, is pretty attractive, checks out lots of girls, etc etc, but he's been texting me and asking me to hang out regardless of my rules on sex. He doesn't really ask me about myself often, so I get bored.
I've matured a lot and I don't have time for games or bullshit with guys, ever. How can I test if there's a real connection or if he's just a stupid player to avoid?
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Players manipulate people's emotions and feelings , so you'd need to always be one step ahead of his own game if you want to continue seeing him. That can drain you emotionally and take its toll on you in time
You need to set boundaries and let those be known to him, if he tries to intentionally cross your boundaries, or acts disinterested in you after knowing them, then you know there's no emotional connection there
If he knows you'd only have sex with a guy who you have an emotional conncection with then he'll probably try to manipate your emotions. Getting you into bed will be an achievement for him, because players love a challenge. It helps then to " up", their game and become more deceptive
To be honest, I'd avoid him. Even if he settled down and quit being a player he'd still always be a manipulator. If a person is manipulative then it's a trait they'll always have. It's part of who they are. I despise manipulators. They are the worst type of people. They have no regard for other people's feelings.