For me I don't know why I do this to myself. However if I meet a girl that is extremely simple to date I just get bored.
Than I meet these girls that I will chase after for months and I always find it more rewarding when it works, but so fucking depressing when it doesn't. IE spending time, money, effort, and emotions on a girl that is just playing games with you and doesn't even plan on ever taking things further.
Well I voted no but I do actually get that ones who are too easy and forward to get are boring. I'd prefer to have to work a little and get to know someone before we actually do anything, if there's no risk at all and I can tell she would do whatever I wanted on the first date it's just boring, and also it makes her seem too clingy and not independent enough.
But I find it annoying when someone doesn't show how they feel and I keep trying to contact them or go out with them, and they don't directly tell me no but also don't tell me how they feel. The ideal situation is when they make it known that they enjoy your company, but aren't willing to give in without you making an effort.
hey, i totally get your feelings and having a drive for something a bit more than some others would happily settle for, you are questioning it and im trying to see what your saying... the girls who you have to work for and chase excite you and you desire them and perhaps are seeing them as potential serious contenders then she doesn't want that and you are left feeling a bit confused i would imagine, girls can definitely be players and can love the attention and money spent on them but are in no way giving back. the ones who are ready to be steady and commit are too boring, so why are you doing this? to eventually find the right place and the right person, do you ever hold back a little to test their response and whether they chase you back a little? what do feel you want at this point in your life? xx
I won't bother chasing them at all anymore. Hadn't done so for almost 10 years and my age displayed isn't my true age. I realized it's all just too tiresome and costly and just delusions caused by hormones anyway.
Chasing girls can be a real effort and burden sometimes. Sure, some may find it challenging. But it gets really old and boring for me after a while. Finding it rewarding is fine as long as she's not taking the piss and just using you for attention and stringing you along.
Part of me does, but I also like girls I simply have good chemistry with and me "chasing" equates to inviting her out places and she comes with. It's really cool to have a cool girl that likes you back and puts in effort in return to your effort. I don't buy into the idea that the man needs to chase a woman in order for it to be worthwhile. Just because it came easy doesn't mean it's any less. In many ways, it should come easy. That's how you know you're trying things out with the right women (assuming you are sexually attracted to her).
Few guys like chasing, but many women think they do because:
1) guys who chase are the most aggressive so women encounter them more often and then think they represent a larger percentage of guys than they actually do
2) a guy who chases a woman is definitely into her, if she chases him he may not be into her (he just wasn't from the start), this can get some really dense/entitled women to think guys need the chase to be into a woman
3) mom said it's true, of course mom doesn't know her sh*t and only repeats what she heard from grandma, but it can take a while for her daughter to realize that
4) truth in fiction: women who are immediately very clingy and submissive (like dumbing down for him) and don't give him the time to get to know her and fall in love with her can sometimes drive a guy away, she may then conclude that relationships only work if the guy chased her
I have never tried, but if I was to chase a girl, it would only feel rewarding if she is consistently hard to get. I don't see the appeal in waiting over a month, paying to take her out, and romancing herif she has exchanged nudes or spread her legs for guys who didn't have to put in a fraction of the time or effort that I did.
For me no I don't like chasing them cause I usually end up falling for the shy ones and it is hard for them to show that they like you when they do. So them showing something encouraging is rare. I would rather that she lets me know that she likes me instead of me chasing her for a few months. One of the few things worse than rejection is being dragged along.
NO, I hate that I have to chase someone to be with them. I have done that for years without anything at all happening and me feeling much worse about myself. It has gotten to the point where I have given up on ever getting a girlfriend, settling down and having children.
Yeah its depressing. I dont chase girls though - if they dont show signs oof interest then theyve damned well missed their chance to feel awesome! Focussing on one girl when you could be meeting many more doesn't add up for me anyway.
As for spending money on girls... I Never do that! In fact they usually buy me drinks if anyone does. Girls play guys, easiest clue is when the commodities/money comes out.
Dating is not a blood sport. Do not think about how 'easy' she is to date. Think abou YOU. How muc do ŷou like her? How badly do you want to be in her company? Consider the emotional rewards of dating her rather than the cost of wooing her..
I don't personally like to chase girls, no. I prefer to know where we are in the relationship, and if there is any chasing, it should go both ways. If chasing means fighting for her, then yes, to the ends of the world.