So I met this guy, he seems really sweet and caring
Only problem is it would be a long distance relationship.
Do they ever really work out? Is it worth trying to see where it goes? what are the positives and negatives?
Most Helpful Guy
How strong are your feelings for each other? This is the question you might want to ask yourself. If both your feelings are really strong then I would say a long distance relationship can work if both of you are totally commited to it. Nowadays it should work better than ever. We have all this technology at our disposal which enable us to connect with people faster, better, etc. and it's constatly improving.
Yes, it can work if both of you want to make it work.
Both of you should try and find a way to come together in future. Don't accept the long distance relationship as being part of your life forever. Build a life together for the future, otherwise I don't see any relationship really working.0
Most Helpful Girl
I was in a LDR for 3 years. It only works if you're both on the exact same page. If you want and feel the same thing. If you're both so much in love that you are ready to face some really lonely, frustrated days and to suck up the jealousy. But you gotta have to have a plan to eventually close the distance and live together. The only reason my ex and I went for it is because I was supposed to go study there in a year anyways, I planned that even before I met him. It was just a coincidence to hook up with him while I was traveling there. Unfortunately, I wasn't accepted at the university there, and our plan kept being delayed and delayed. Before we knew it 3 years already passed and I couldn't move there. Had no luck with university or finding a job, even though I tried SO HARD! And he couldn't help me either because he was just a student too. It brought a lot of stress and doubt for both of us and he eventually lost interest and fell out of love with me. He just didn't feel the same anymore, even though he still cared about me. He met someone new and he broke up with me.
The only positive about LDR is that when you see each other after a long time, it feels like a fairytale. I kept falling in love with him over and over every time I would see him at the airport. And we would make the best of the time we have together. I had a reason to work harder and wake up with a goal every morning, and I would count the days when I will see him again. It was really exciting.
There a lot of negatives, though. Dealing with missing each other, wondering what are they doing or thinking at the moment, who are they with, etc. My ex and I were really devoted to each other, though. We used Skype and we were both on Skype all the time. That killed my social life. I was home at the PC all the time, just so I could talk to him in my free time and so I could be available to him whenever. He did the same. My friends and family didn't approve us either. And so on...0