I started dating this guy. And we feel passionate about each other but it fades in and out with no "spark". However, we are really similar, finish each others sentences and get each other on a deeper level. He said we will see what happens but we are definitely more than friends. He makes plans with me and treats me more than a friend. We have told each other that we are a great match but no spark. We have been on around 4 dates and just met 3 months ago. Is there a such thing as a spark?
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It sounds like you two would make fantastic friends.
No spark sometimes means that there isn't something outstanding about them that makes you nervous of losing their interest, but it also means you feel safe with them. A relationship can survive like this.
I am currently in this struggle right now... I just ended a relationship with my boyfriend of a year and a half. He is a great person—wonderful personality—but the spark wouldn't ignite. There was something missing; for me, it was emotional intimacy.
There is a guy at my college that I went out with recently, and the feeling is different. It's not a spark—it is more like a warm ember. I think nervousness and novelty causes the spark, and emotional/sexual chemistry causes the warmth. I was nervous on my first date with him, but he is very easy to be around... I think that's why I don't feel that spark. I'm not scared of him at all.
I could be wrong... That's just my experience. But a relationship can survive without it. Actually, this need for a "spark" is part of western culture. Other cultures often marry without it. I am a psychology major, and am learning about human interaction.
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