First of all: I'm really ugly and don't try to say 'everyone is beautiful' or stuffs like that.. I've seen myself in the mirror, y'know.
I actually don't think that my body is ugly.. I'm not fat or too thin, I even quite LIKE my body.. The problem is face.
My cheeks are really chubby and the only thing I like about my face are my blue eyes.. Even make up doesn't work for me, so I gave up.
People say 'I don't care about looks', but that's not true at all. I used to believe it, so I kept smiling and being positive no matter what, but boys we're avoiding me.. They only came when they needed help.
When I was 16, I found a very nice male friend, who was so kind to me, so I couldn't help myself and fell in love with him, but one day he told me something like 'Could you stop clinging onto me? I don't want people to get the wrong idea.' While the other <prettier girls> who were clinging onto him even more than I, didn't bother him at all. That time I was really heartbroken and somehow I still am.. Is it really that hard to find someone, who prefers personality over looks?
Most Helpful Guy
I don't know if you are truly unattractive because you have not posted a picture. For this discussion, I will assume that your self-evaluation is accurate but I have no reason to think that you are unattractive.
Physical attraction is an important component of a relationship. The difference between friendship and a romantic relationship is that the physical part of the relationship promotes closeness and intimacy in ways that friends never experience.
However. . . look around you. Everyone else is not a fashion model or a beauty queen. Everyone is not a 8+/10. The majority of people are average (by definition) and there are just as many unattractive people as there are attractive people. Look at the older people and see how many of them have found a partner. The people who are married or in a LTR are not just the elegant and beautiful glitterati. Average people have partners. Unattractive people have partners.
How does that happen? How do unattractive people find partners? Your notions of what is attractive are YOUR notions and other people have very different ideas about what is arousing or exciting on the opposite sex. Some girls think that all guys want girls with huge boobs and 32A girls think they'll die alone because no guy will ever want them. . . but there are guys who HATE big boobs and who want girls who are 32A. For most of my life, I have thought that the actress Sandy Duncan was one of the hottest women on the planet but I also know that I may be the only guy who feels that way.
Go pay someone for some beauty and fashion consultations; maximize what you have. Develop your abilities in other ways and build your self-confidence as a woman. One day, some guy will sit down beside you in a restaurant, he will find a way to engage you in conversation, and ten years later, you'll be married and have three kids. Really!
When I was a young man, I felt that I was unattractive. I did what I could to maximize my appearance (lost weight,) developed my competence in various areas to gain confidence, and I have either been in relationships or dating most of my adult life. It can happen. . . and it will happen. . . trust me!0
Most Helpful Girl
I know you don't want to hear everyone is beautiful so I'll just say this.. We all see ourselves differently then others see us. We pick out our flaws in the mirror and we tell ourselves we are never enough. But in reality how do we know someone else isn't thinking the total opposite of this? Others get to see you smiling as you read text messages or the way you laugh at your friends jokes. They see your eyes light up when you talk about something you love. But when you look in the mirror you can't see any of that. We fake a smile but that's not our real smile. So all I'm saying is don't think of yourself as 'ugly' because ugly doesn't exist.. Sure you see yourself that way but you haven't seen your true self like everyone else around you can.0